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14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1562

Even if we are happy it is very fleeting. We have to wake up next day and put up with the same crap all over again. But than being happy I will say we drunks forget about the miseries while we are drunk, that is to say quieten our mind.

Instead of seeking for temporary quietude, ancient scriptures says if we focus on the present we immediately lower the chattering of the mind.

Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle talks about this in detail about this. AA has different approach to get there, via 12 steps, we achieve what they call a spiritual awakening where by you look at the world with a different perspective that you would not need to take a drink.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1022

If alcohol is a depressant, why am I happy when drinking and sad when not?

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1022

Yay Jacks! I'm so glad for your success. You seem really focused and sure of what you want. That's so cool. Keep checking in OK? It helps to hear how others are making this work.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1022

Thank you for the encouragement Tiana... it really helps to get direction with those questions. Makes my brain hurt to think on this stuff so much.... trying to be "aware" when I've gotten into the habit of avoiding awareness at all costs. I guess for right now I am defining success by drinking less each day. Tonight I made 30 pumpkin baskets for my grandson's school. It was fun and kept my hands and mind busy so I really did end up drinking less. But I also feel rather lost and very sad. I didn't have enough wine to numb anything at all and I know going to sleep will be hard. Passing out has worked so well for me. Anyway, I am setting a goal to make something everyday... I babysit during the day (without drinking) and am just so exhausted by the time kids get picked up I can hardly wait to start drinking. I am going to try to turn drinking time into creating time and see if that helps with the exhaustion.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 23

M- I did well last night. I read until I felt tired and then actually fell asleep. I didn't wake up at all and this morning was the first morning I woke in a very long time feeling pretty good. No hangover, no nasusea, no regrets. I feel good today:) I am amazed. It is good that you drank less! It is hard to just have a few. Even if you just cut down by one per week-you could really change the way you feel fairly quickly! You can do it! I have faith.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 653

Changes take time. It looks to me like you have some goals already without realizing it. Maybe you could work with your last post and turn some of those ideas into measureable goals?
You did good last night!! Keep going back to your Toolbox- sounds like it helps. See the positive: you recognized the trigger, you turned to your support system, you drank less- soooo good!!

How is tonight going to play out for you? What could you plan so that you maximize your chances of success, whatever you define that as??

Tiana, Health Educator

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1022

As for me, after I hit a trigger with family and starting drinking... I came back here, read through postings on the site and went through my toolbox again. I drank less. I felt my feelings. I survived. I want to change my relationship with alcohol into a more casual one... where we meet every once and a while to relax and enjoy. But, I don't want a relationship where alcohol dictates to me everyday. I'm tired of it. And I don't want alcohol to be the "friend" I run to when I am feeling distress.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1022

jacks... how did it go last night?

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1022

thanks for the suggestion jacks... reading IS a good distraction for me. That particular book was too much for me to handle, but everyone else I know just loves it. Enjoy your read! And congrats for the positive steps you are taking. I'll dig out something from my shelves to pass the night. thanks

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 23

I went out and bought a book today with the money I would have spent on liquor.

I bought The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo. I have been wanting to read it...but most

weekends/weeknights I am too drunk to read. I am going to start it tonight in bed.

I want to feel relaxed when I lay down and divert my attention from needing my bedtime

drink.

Think of something you keep saying you want to do...and do it.

Reading, sewing, running, gardening, scrapbooking...there has to be something that you like to do.

jacks

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