EvolutionHealth.care

Home
Main Forum
Managing Drinking
Introduce Yourself
Hungover again

Advanced Search Form

Hungover again

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 17

Kelly, I'm sorry you had that experience with AA. Considering AA is probably 80% men, I can understand why/how these things have happened in the past. I know it would probably make me feel a little weird to attend a self-help group that was basically all women (not that they'd hit on me or anything lol). Necessity is the mother of invention, and so goes desperation and willingness, regardless of whether AA is the path or not.

You may not have to cut out your mother/sister from your life, just temporarily until you have some sobriety under your belt. I mean, we cannot avoid alcohol or people drinking for the rest of our lives, lest we want to hole up in our apartments (sound familiar?) My older brother is an alcoholic and the last time I got sober I basically wouldn't hang out with him, and he knew why, even understood why (i think). My sponsor has 4 years of sobriety and tells me he is not bothered by people drinking anymore because it is just soo ingrained in him that he just can't drink period. Anyways, I'm rambling here...Hope the " talk" with your friend goes well....

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 65

Morning Dods, I hope you are feeling better today. I managed to finally get some sleep with the help of Gravol. I'm still feeling a little hung over and anxious. Back to my life and all it's problems.

Maybe I just didn't find the right AA group for me. I was really put off when some guy tried to pick me up at a meeting then followed me out of the building asking to have coffee with me. However, during my stint at AA I was able to stay sober for 2 months which is a record for me. Maybe I'll try again.

I know for sure I will never be a moderate drinker. After the 2 months sober I started letting myself have 1 drink a day which led to 2 then 3 and next thing I knew I was a hardcore alcoholic again. Even worse than before.

I can't stand being around drinkers when I'm sober so giving up drinking also means saying goodbye to most of my friends and my boyfriend and mother and sister.

I have to go and meet the friend I got into a drunken argument with on Friday so we can exchange property. I don't really remember a lot of the fight so it's embarassing. She'll no doubt tell me stop drinking even though she is also a drunk.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 17

Kelly, I wandered into the rooms of AA about a year ago and have found it very helpful for a few reasons- there is support and understanding among bottomed-out alcoholics. There is an accountability factor as well, even though no one can keep me from drinking except me, it still helps to have people that are interested in your sobriety. The only time in my life when I was able to not drink was during this past year with the help of AA. In the past year I have had sober intervals which lasted 2 months and 4 months. My experience has been that AA works if you are desperate enough, if you have hurt enough. That might mean relapse after relapse before I will get it, but without AA I would have nothing but my own thoughts. My sponsor is an incredible person and the many other AAers I have met were largely giving, humble people. Like I said, unless youve been beaten down pretty darn good, AA feels ridiculous, at least in my experience. I will make it back to AA, someday. I hate to admit it but I just don't think I'm one of those drinkers that is going to be able to moderate or go it alone on this. I've tried it and it never worked. AA isn't for everyone. I think im just depressed and disillusioned with life and that is what fuels my insane desire to drink.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1562

I am able to stay stopped working the program of AA. We all know we cannot take that 1st drink but then our mind plays tricks on us and we end up drinking again. its a vicious cycle. On forced sobriety, we are restless irritable and discontent. And that is alcoholism. Normal drunks/Moderate drunks do not understand us. Only hope is to have a psychic change.

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 823

Kelly and Dods,

You have both identified that drinking a single beer or alcoholic drink is what triggers the chain reaction that follows - until you get drunk and wake up with a hangover.

It is crucial to realize that drinking will not address any negative emotions you are feeling - which you are trying to suppress by drinking. It only fuels them.

Revisit all your reasons for wanting to quit and keep reading them over and over. Carry them around with you so that you can remind yourself why drinking is not the answer and how it is ruining your lives.

Please also make the effort to discuss your goals with your significant others so that they can be supportive in your quit. It is important for them to be sensitive to your situation. Start practicing saying "no" when you are offered a drink at a social gathering - this will be hard at first but will get easier as you repeat it.

Please keep us posted on your progress and post here as often as you need to.

Faryal, Health Educator

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 65

I wish I knew Dods. I can't believe I haven't quit yet with all the misery being an alcoholic has brought me. I couldn't even sleep the hangover off today cause of the rolling waves of anxiety and having to get up a puke every half hour. I keep thinking that drinking makes me feel happier but if I think back I remember crying several times this weekend for no apparent reason. I do such stupid things when I'm drunk and I lie about how much I drink.

My life is going nowhere cause I can't focus and I'm either drunk or hungover at any given time. My BF has already got 2 cases of beer lined up for us for Canada day. I'm sick of being a drunk but life without alcohol doesn't seem possible.

Are we depressed, you and I? Physically/ mentally dependant? Or do we just hate ourselves?

Have you ever been to treatment or AA? I went to AA for a while but I really didn't like it. Didn't like the people and didn't like the dank, depressing church basements and crappy coffee. I listen to a "quit drinking" CD almost every night or day but so far it doesn't seem to have any effect. All it's shown me is that for some reason I don't want to quit drinking and until I really do want it I will be wasting my life being wasted.

The addict in me is much stronger than the sober person now and there's booze everywhere I go. Once I get that first beer in me it's all over. There is no one drink. I have to drink everything no matter how much it will screw me up.

Sounds like you're the same way. You're not in control anymore. I hope you don't feel to awful from withdrawl. It will pass. It's probably for the bet that you're out of booze so you can let your body and mind recover.

Let me know how you're doing maybe we can help each other through this.

- Kelly

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 17

I know exactly how you feel Kelly. I stayed up all night Friday night drinking and without sleep drank all the way till Sunday morning and then slept all day then got drunk Sunday night and today I am broke. I spent $100 this weekend on booze and Im so ashamed. It too makes me cringe. The alcohol is still in my system but i know in a few hours the dts will start and i have no way to get anymore booze! This IS pure hell-why do we choose to go on like this?

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 65

Spent the entire weekend trashed and now I feel like ****. I got into a stupid fight with my "best friend" because I offered to help her carry some of her belongings and they ended up being stolen. Why do I keep drinking when it screws up my life so much? I feel like an emotional wreck now. My nerves are shot and I cringe when I think about what a train wreck I've been all weekend. I'm even drinking right now to settle myself down. I feel powerless to stop drinking. I hate this.

Reading this thread:

today's top discussions:

This Month’s Leaders:

Most Supportive

Most Active

Most Loved

Hungover again