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Stressfull job and other "excuses"


6 years ago 0 10 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hello there, I hear what you're saying.  I'm working on quitting smoke too, but I'm a major smoker. 20-25 smokes a day and have been smoking for 30 + years.
I'm running into some of the similar issues as you are.
Work, Family Health issues, Home life....  In otherwords, Life Happens. 
I did a good job yesterday of greatly reducing my smoking, but today, I'm at a similar stage where I'm not caring much + I'm nervous and anxious about going to my Chest CT Scan tonight.  I didn't think it was bothering me until I let up my 6 smoke today and it was only lunch time.  EEK. Now that I've recognized that, I'm working on controlling my urge, it will be a bit of an inner battle until after the test. 
I wish I could go a couple days without smoking. For me that would make things easier.
I'm finding that the most important thing is to recognize the reasons for smoking, and think of the benefits of not smoking.  I'm still struggling,  I'm still in the early stages of my quitting program and trying to keep positive.
Don't forget to fill out the steps in My Program.  Hopefully it'll give you some tools to deal with the struggles.
And would love to know how you're doing.
 
Bob
8 years ago 0 11212 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi FlowerChild,

Wow, you have set some big goals for yourself. I am not sure I know anyone who has the answer to everything! But I can see what you are saying. Making lifestyle changes in addition to quitting an addictions is extremely tough. Try to take it one step at a time. Pick one goal or two goals and focus on those. Be easy on yourself. It sounds like you are aiming for perfection and when you can't reach it you give up. So don't aim for perfection, aim for progress. Just the fact that you are here posting is a success. How are you feeling today?
 
 

Ashley, Health Educator
8 years ago 0 3 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hello,
 
I tried quitting a couple of months ago. But then my job became way more stressfull than it was before due to lack of co workers.
Also things in my personal life went downhill and I felt like "I don't care if I'm doing something not healthy for me".
I don't smoke because I really believe it's a stress relieve but somehow I sometimes just "don't care".
 
I could go for a couple of days without smoking simply because I don't feel like it.
I think that, in order to quit for good, I need to change my whole lifestyle. I don't feel like going out often anymore and I wish I could just be that kind of person that is super organized, healthy, sporty, positive and relaxed. At the moment, I'm quite the oposite and I tried many times but then something happened and I was overwhelmed with negative feelings again and went back to drinking, partying, smoking being lazy and unorganized.
 
I admire people who found inner peace, are calm and have an answer to everything. They're optimistic and it seems that nothing ever gets to them.
If only I knew how to achieve this mental state. I will always keep working on it and I belive that one day I'll find the strength to finally be who I want to be and quit smoking.

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