A book called "On Death & Dying" by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross identifies the five phases which a dying person encounters. These five stages are also said to be the exact stages felt by those mourning the loss of a loved one.
What's that got to do with us? People who quit smoking also go through the five phases.
They are; Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance.
Don't believe it? Read on.
Denial: "Smoking wasn't so bad. It wasn't hurting me so much. I could probably have just one."
The most dangerous stage, in which many quits are lost. If we can get past these lies, we are on to...
Anger: "Arrrggggg" Everyone avoids you, the fuse is so very short, we all know this one, where we are generally no fun at all. Even your boss avoids you. But most smokers seem to get past this one.
Bargaining: This is also a dangerous one. "I'll just sneak this one and no one will ever know" or "I can have just one puff and I can go back to quitting." or "Just one won't hurt"......(This is the second place that many quits have been lost.)
Depression usually follows, if you get past the bargaining stage without smoking. You should be excited now because you are starting to realize you have probably quit for good, but you feel like you're not your old self, or you have lost your best friend. At this point "one day at a time" is so important as it may actually save your life, because tomorrow, could bring acceptance.
Once you reach acceptance, you get the true perspective of what smoking has done to you and what not smoking can do for you. Usually within two weeks of this the addiction is broken, and the stages are overcome. Life becomes much simpler, happier, and more manageable as a non smoker. Your self esteem is boosted greatly. You realize the state of freedom you have obtained.
All smokers go through these phases, at their own indiviual pace.
Anyone can break the addiction and beat the phases. All you have to remember is 'Not One Puff Ever!'
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I found this today in my searching and realized what a great piece of information this is!
What is so great about it, is that all the crap that you feel or worry about or think is just you, well it is a phase and it will pass! Smoking is not an option NOPE!
:)
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/5/2007
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 128
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,200
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1,350.40
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 15 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 47 [B]Seconds:[/B] 59