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10 years ago 0 618 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
 
The one that annoyed me the most was  "You're really doing well!"  I was being unfair feeling annoyed, but coming from a non-smoking family member, it used to wind me up!  Trouble is you can't scream at them as they mean well.  ( I had bad anger management when I was quitting!)  
 
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10 years ago 0 187 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
The most common one I hear was already mentioned by Dori: "If you're going to be this cranky, why don't you just smoke?"  GRRRRRRR some people have no clue. lol  And of course, the best are reformed smokers who say it was easy for me to quit, so why can't I?
 
 
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The worst thing a friend said to me was "quit whining"... I was smoking again later that day.
11 years ago 0 43 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I had a chuckle whilst reading your statements, Dori, because I recognize most of them! My best one is:
"Just have one after dinner or with a drink and don't smoke during the day."
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This is a great post Ashley : )
Whoa Dori - you have gotten dinged with some of the worst comments I've come across! Good for you for keeping your head on and remembering NOPE!
My default trigger (that I often fell for in the old days) used to come from my hubby who would share his cigars with me on Friday nights.  He's on board with my quit now and doesn't utter such things my way any more -  but he always used to say, " You Can't Quit Smoking; I'm not Ready Yet!"    Argggghhh! 
 
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What a great topic!  Here are some statements I have personally experienced that were very frustrating and even triggering:
 
1. It's been long enough now, have one of mine, I'm sure it won't hurt.
2. If you're going to be this cranky, why don't you just go back to smoking.
3. Looks like you've put on a few pounds since you quit.
4. Cheer up, it's not the end of the world.
5. If you're still using the NRTs, what's the point, you might as well just smoke then. (actual statement by my family doctor 3 months after quitting smoking)  
6. Why don't you drop the NRTs, afterall, the withdrawl is only 5 days.
7. I quit cold turkey when I had pneumonia, I don't know why you can't just do the same.
 
The list is endless.  These are the few most extreme ones that came to my mind. 
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Each of you joined this online community to find support and/or offer support to those with a similar quest to live smoke-free.

Sometimes friends or family try to offer help however, it can backfire and their words can end up more hurtful then supportive.

What are some examples of things you've been told that should not be said to someone trying to quit smoking?
 
Ashley, Health Educator


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