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Is it my time ?


13 years ago 0 377 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Carlos says it all, "there is nothing to quit".  The hard part is getting out of the deception of what smoking really is and through that observation you do find your time.  Unfortunately the years add up quickly and some people go to the end without ever finding their time.  I do think age can play a roll and is what I think is partly why some of the younger folks don't find there time so easily.  I think part of it is thinking you are indestructible, and part is just not knowing ourselves for who we really are. I know that quitting really brought all that forward to the surface for me. Sometimes it just takes time to learn those lessons. I'm happy lots of folks here "have found their time" and are seriously keeping their quits. Lets keep that list growing...
Ron 
13 years ago 0 90 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
When you come to the realisation that there is nothing good provided by smoking, and admit to YOURSELF you dont enjoy poisoning yourself daily, then there is nothing to quit. You get Free of the of the shackles and its almost like a veil lifted. You see smoking for what it is; an expensive, destructive and tragic form of self abuse. I love being FREE!!!!!
13 years ago 0 2534 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
If superstitions work, that's fine by me – whatever it takes to beat the addiction but if you want to smoke, the chances of quitting are very slim and if you force yourself to quit under those conditions, purgatory must surely follow.
 
There comes a time to secure a successful quit for some of us, as proven here, but not all of us, also proven here. A sad fact but a fact nonetheless.
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13 years ago 0 1904 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I don't know. I think telling someone that they haven't quit yet because it just isn't there time  is dangerous. Someone told me that years ago after my three year quit failed. I took it to the bank and smoked for the next twenty years, because it wasn't my time yet. God hadn't destined it. Quitting is difficult and there is never a good time to do it, although some times are slightly better than others. Plus, I've found that God doesn't cause addictions and bad behavior, and God has the tendency to help those who help themselves. Instead of waiting for the right time to happen, it may make more sense for people to prepare themselves. The preparation may take months (even years), but I've found that few positive changes happen without trying.
13 years ago 0 312 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
So very true, Breather.
 
My son, is so trying to quit, our quit date was suppose to be Oct 1st, so far I have made it, he hasn't.
 
But I suppose it's because it just isn't his time yet, and it will be when "he wants to quit more than it wants to smoke", just like it was for me.
 
Thanks Breather for reminding me there is no use to nag him about it.
 
Charm
 
13 years ago 0 12049 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
BRILLIANT!!
 
KEEP POSTING THESE FANTASTIC WORDS OF WISDOM!
 
Josie, Health Educator
13 years ago 0 2534 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Quite true. Once you reach the point where you want to quit more than you want to smoke you have a much greater chance of succeeding. Unfortunately, the converse is also true.
 
 
 
 
 
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There were many times that I would try to stop smoking only to be met with what I considered failure and to be disgusted with myself for being for lack of a better word weak. It wasn't that I didn't try because I did. There are as many reasons for smoking as well as for not , reasons known only to you. Maybe , like me , you've tried and have all but totally given up on the idea. I , like anyone else , can't be entirely sure that this is the final quit although it's a lot easier than it used to be. I think my time came a couple of years back and yours will come in your own time. When it's right for you you'll know it. Every quit , no matter how short in duration sets the stage for that final quit. How you accomplish this is up to you. I wanted to stop smoking more than anything else in my life. It must have been my time ! breather

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