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13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 331

Hi DJ, slips do happen so get up, dust yourself off and keep moving in the right direction. I like the comments from stevie.....there is a lot of truth in that. Clearly, you want to quit smoking, but it has to be all about you. Everyone has different emotions, thoughts, ideas, etc so you cannot expect your experience to be the same as anyone else's. I do agree that some have an easier time with it, some struggle more than others, and some choose not to quit even though they don't want to smoke or are going through a horrible smoking related illness. Where you fall in is the catagory of wanting to improve your life, feel better and quit that nasty habit and really that's all that matters. You can do this...it sounds like you want to so keep your guard up, learn from your experiences and be proud of yourself. No point in being your worst enemy, be gentle with yourself....you will generate better results that way! If you notice you slip at 3 months then try changing routines at 3 months, or take on a new hobby, project, etc to get through that part. Just remember that if you do slip, to take away what you learned to help serve you in the future. Good luck and have a wonderful smoke free day.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 71

Thanks Brenda and Lainey

Great advise from both but your right Brenda I never thought about it like you said it ( to want to and

to be motivated are different.) But when you said it you right maybe I want to really bad but don't have myself

motivated enough. I have read Allen Carr's book regular one 2 times and the one for woman once. Basically

that's really in the end you have to be happy your doing it. Thanks again to all. DJ

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3875

Hey DJ, If Chantix worked for you before, don't be afraid to try it again. Yes, they warn that it causes depression, but what they don't tell you is that quitting smoking causes depression, whether you use Chantix or anything else.

It's because smoking affects the serotonin in the brain.

Pick your NRT and pick a date, you want to quit, you know you're addicted, there's no time like the present. Spring is just around the corner, a time for new beginnings. Get ready, motivate yourself and let 'er rip! You so deserve to be smoke free!

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1904

DJ, like many people, it took me a whole lot of attempts spread out over many years to quit smoking. Frankly, I found each attempt to be exhausting, so it was many months between attempts. That's just it. Quitting smoking is very tiring, but you have to have the mindset that you are in possibly a six month to one year boot camp at first, most likely a year one. There may be very little rest. Your stamina and resolve will be tested. Realize we practiced our habit over many years. It is a part of us. Now we have to learn new ways of coping. To do so, we have to also define and practice these new ways until they stick. Practice makes yours--usually not perfect.

I wish I could tell you that some magic is involved in quitting smoking. There isn't any involved. Quitting smoking is simple, but not easy: To quit, all we have to do is not smoke. That is all that is asked of us. I personally got sick and tired of being sick and tired when I quit. I almost caved, but then I asked myself, "If not now, then when?" Experience had told me that there was never going to be a good time to quit, that I needed to make any amount of time I put in stick. I think it's true that everything starts with willingness, but willingness is only a start and not an end. I heard a motivational speaker the other day, a personal trainer. (He was on TV.) He pointed out that just wanting to do something and being motivated are not the same things. We know when we are motivated, because it's when we've run out of excuses.

Posts that speak of relapsing are helpful. They remind us that none of us are invincible, that the demon can sneak up on us at any moment and that we we will always have to be alert to that possibility. Prepare to get back on track and good luck.

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 71

Thanks to all of you great advice. I really think I need to either do the wellbutin or Chantix. I thought

I reset my meter but guess not. I really do want to quit. Been trying for two or three years even get

pretty far in some quits then lost it. So got to keep trying I know I will make it one day. Thanks again

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 11226

Hi DJ,

I'm sorry to hear you have had a slip. It sounds like you are going through a lot in your life now. Stress can be a common contributor to relapse; however, you can still have a successful quit even while stressed. Remember smoking doesn't make anything easier and in fact stresses the body more!

Try not to compare yourself to your husbands quit. Every individual is different and every individual quit is different. Work through the program to be sure you are fully informed about the quitting process.

It sounds like you really want this. What do you think it will take for you to achieve this goal? From all your other quit attempts what have you learned?

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 93

Hi DJ, I'm there with you after 2.5 years, I slipped, so have also reset my stats. Like Shevie said, every ones quit is different, no two quits are exactly alike. Some people can just put them down and others have a more difficult time.

All we can do, is get back on that horse and ride it again! :-) Prepare, plan and prepare some more..

Jules

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 97

Hi, DJ. Sorry to hear about your slip, but slips happen. It really is no bigger deal than you make of it.

There are a number of issues I see in your post to address. Let's start with the Chantix/suicide and I'll begin by telling you how I originally found the SSC. I had decided to quit myself, and my doctor had told me about Zyban/Wellbutrin/bupropion (three names, same drug). I searched on "Zyban side effects" or something like that and one of the links led me to a post on this board. As it turned out, the post was a fellow saying that he had to quit taking it because it was making him suicidal (one of the side effects). OK. Well, I'd already come to the conclusion that I couldn't do it cold turkey and I adamantly did not want to use any NRT. Other than alternative treatments, back then that was about all the options. So I went with the Wellbutrin and told my wife and co-workers to keep an eye on me and let me know if I start acting odd. That was 70 months ago and here I am, alive and well.

The moral to this story is, just because others experience something does not mean you will, too. Especially if you have already used it with some success. So don't let those stories put fear into you, DJ. You won't suddenly be hit with an overwhelming urge to kill yourself. If you are cautious, as I was, then have those close to you keep watch on you. All will be well.

Don't compare your quit with others. Some can walk away from smoking and never look back. Others will fight tooth and nail for a few years, perhaps forever. The other 98% are somewhere in between. I bet you are, too. Just because you cannot mimic your husband's quit does not even hint that something is wrong with you. It simply means you are not like him. I suspect that is a good thing, too.

OK, I'm getting silly.

I get the impression you tend to slip around three months. Is that correct? If so, I have some words on that, too. (some folks are probably thinking, "Good lord, no doubt he does", LOL)

13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 639

DJ....don't beat yourself up. Revel in the fact that you were successful in your latest quit for 3 months. Think of it, you have 20 quits times 3 months each, for a total of 5 YEARS of freedom from smoking. That is GREAT news.

Re-arm yourself with preparation, information and determination. Then hop back on the horse when you're ready for another ride....one minute, one hour, one day, at a time.

There are loads of posts and people here who know EXACTLY how you feel, because we're dealing with much of the same challenges.

You are a winner, and in the words of Breather...."YOU are the most important person here". You can do this. Relax and enjoy the ride!!!!

Keep the Quit,

Dave

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13 years ago 0 +0 / -0 71

I have reset my meter because I screwed up again for the 20th time. I have to figure out

how to do this. I did do the best on chantix but now after all the talk they did about it

causing people to commit sucide I am afraid to do it. I lasted three months on that. If

anybody has any ideas I just feel like such a loser not being able to do this quitting. I hate

smoking the people I hang with does not smoke. My husband got up about 37 years ago

one morning and said he wasn't smoking anymore and never touched another one. Even

with me smoking, I don't even remember him being nasty or anything. I just can't figure out

what I'm doing wrong in all this quits. Some of which I get to three months then cave in. Right

now is very stressful. My mother which I have watch over for 14 years since my father passed

away. Well not been easy but this last year she was really sick for serveral months got her better

then in November she fell which before that when she was sick we discovered she had dementia.

When she fell she fracture her shoulder in three places, spiral broke her arm which now needs surgery.

Is in rehab wanting to come home because I can't make her understand she needs her arms fixed first.

She also leaves in her own home and will not come with me. Thinks she can live by herself. Before was

really this last year 24 hour care in her home which she is 1/2 hour from me. I could go one for every. But

I will stay on this site and will quit for good one day and hope I can manage to do it soon. DJ

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