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With all due respect gang, the viewpoint I think I share with Brenda is not nearly one of indulgence but more one of planning a point of closure that begins a meticulously organised life change. It's not 'wanna be' vs. not, it's a personality type that demands the full stop at the end of the sentence (pun intended) in every part of their life. I am one of these. Many folks here are not but some I'm sure, are.
If I were in the position described here, having quit 'accidentally', the mere fact that I hadn't personally mapped out the quit would niggle me to death that I wasn't actually in control of it – that ready-made excuse waiting to happen weeks, months, years down the line. The addict in me would lie and say 'well, I never did have what I want, I never do...and I want this' (yes, I know this happens to everyone). But that last smoke IS what I wanted. That planned quit WAS what I wanted. I got what I wanted to the letter. This was armour to fight off those excuses. And thereafter, every time that 'just one' thought came up, I had that to reflect on so I could think 'I DID have what I wanted, and now I want to stay quit, so shove off already'. That served to strengthen my resolve tenfold.
The quit itself was truly my way of taking back control of my life. "I've gone five days so I guess I'll just be strong and keep going" would never have worked for me or that same type of person - they'd feel dragged along on a wave of unexpected. That would've sat near cataclysmic to me because at the time that I quit smoking, I was feeling dragged along in every other aspect of my life. This quit was my salvation and that 'last smoke' was key - the 'first day of the rest of my life' and all that goes along with it. And because of the way I went about it, I have succeeded, I am so proud of myself and my life is in many ways unrecognisable from that I was living just three short years ago. The fact that I owned this quit in my way and few people I knew thought I could actually do it makes 'my way' even more valuable to me and has put me in a new place within every relationship I have.
Mind you, I did try the other 'just stop and see how we get on' method. It failed. So I knew it wouldn't work for me again some ten years later.
There are so many of us here and what works for one won't work for all. I agree the strength to not give in to 'just one' defines the committed quitter and whether that means just one at day five or day five thousand, if quitting is part of your plan, stick to it, no excuses. No ‘just one’. NOPE. But I think without a plan you're starting as the underdog in a battle you must win. Why give yourself a disadvantage at the get go? You're already disadvantaged. You're addicted to the most powerful drug going.
I have never known any heavy smoker who quit entirely 'by accident' and kept it up forever. If there is anyone here who's actually done or is currently doing that, I'd love to hear your story, because I cannot begin to comprehend how it is possible.
x T
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$171,071.25
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Days: 5989 Hours: 2
Minutes: 23 Seconds: 22
Life Gained
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45619
Smoke Free Days
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1,140,475
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45619
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456,190
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