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16 years ago 0 1890 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Lillyput, I had to learn that poem by Arthur Clough, in school years ago, that opens with the line : "Say not the struggle naught availeth..." (Google that line for the whole poem of 4 verses - only 16 lines in all). It's a sentiment and wisdom piece about hanging on to your belief in the self and never giving way to despair in the face of difficulty... just as Nonic says! Patrick [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]1/18/2008 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 32 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 800 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $360.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 5 [B]Hrs:[/B] 22 [B]Mins:[/B] 59 [B]Seconds:[/B] 21
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lillyput So glad that you are working it out. Post as often as you can and let us know how it goes. I promise you in the end the struggle worth the effort... nonic [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]12/25/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 420 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 12,600 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $4,410.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 78 [B]Hrs:[/B] 9 [B]Mins:[/B] 12 [B]Seconds:[/B] 53
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16 years ago 0 222 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Thank you all for the support and kindness, Sorry I am not able to keep up as Patrick said I use the computer in work sometimes it can be very busy with the result I am not able to keep up with all the different treads so just in case I am missing out just know I do wish everyone well and it�s great to have you all out there to share all the up and downs with. It�s just amazing that people from all around the world will take the time to tell you they are proud of you for showing a bit of strength, Someone who cares enough to show you that maybe you need to look at things a little bit deeper so you might get answers, Someone who will tell you how they might deal with the same situation that you might learn from it, and someone just saying hello where are you today. Where would you get it, isn�t just brilliant. Still smoke free [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]1/2/2008 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 47 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,410 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �514.65 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 8 [B]Seconds:[/B] 14
16 years ago 0 8760 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Lillyput, It sounds like you had a really awful morning but I'm glad to hear you're doing a little better. Quitting is often associated with the five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and finally acceptance. It sounds to me from your post as if you were having a little bit of an inner conflict this morning, bargaining between accepting your new life and letting go of your old one. It may be helpful to you to look at what you would get out of keeping your old habit. What elements from that new life are still not yet present in your new one? I would encourage you to keep persevering. Some take a little longer to adapt to such a big change. Bargaining is actually quite common in a quit and fairly appropriate for the 44 days you have under your belt. Also know we are here to help you along. Danielle, Bilingual Health Educator
16 years ago 0 880 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Den By the way congratulations on your sobriety. It isn't easy and anyone that does what you have done should be held in high esteem. This is the last one, I do hope that you will use all of you have learned to make this the final quit... nonic [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]12/25/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 417 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 12,510 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $4,378.50 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 77 [B]Hrs:[/B] 19 [B]Mins:[/B] 30 [B]Seconds:[/B] 27
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16 years ago 0 880 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
lillyput Your post does concern me, not because I don't think that you can regain your health by quitting, but more so because of the raw distress that is so apparent. The one phrase that jumps out at me is "just get on with it". I hope I did not give you the impression that I believe this is the way that someone should heal from an addiction. You do not need to "just get on with it". In fact attempting to heal from an addiction in such a way is the same as saying "just say no". That doesn�t work because the roots of addiction have borne themselves deeply into our spiritual and emotional being. Smoking is a behavior that has been learned. As such we must learn how to not smoke. Sometimes in order to do that we require the services of a doctor or therapist to help us understand what that means to us. I do hope that if you feel the need for such a service that you will take full advantage of your National Health care and find someone suitable. Now I could be talking through my hat (I never knew exactly what that meant). However, please take good care of yourself. And remember that we did not just pick up cigarettes out of the blue without a rational purpose. There is a reason that we sought out this behavior; the challenge now is to find the reasons and the strength to learn how to love ourselves by turning aside the necessity to continue the hurtful behavior. The great news is that it is possible to do such a thing and that you have the innate ability to meet this challenge. Cigarettes and Me When I was hurt it told me everything would be alright as long as I didn't actually feel the pain. And I believed it. And I never learned to grieve. When I got angry it told me everything would be alright as long as I didn't defend myself. And I believed it. And I never learned to communicate. When I was afraid, it told me everything would be alright as long as I never tasted the fear. And I believed it. And I never learned to cope. When I was happy, it convinced me it was my friend as long as I took it to the party. And I believed it. And I never felt total joy. nonic [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]12/25/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 417 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 12,510 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $4,378.50 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 77 [B]Hrs:[/B] 19 [B]Mins:[/B] 24 [B]Seconds:[/B] 44
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16 years ago 0 2039 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
lillyput, You know what keeps me grinding through the "rougher" days, knowing that tomorrow will be better. Knowing and believing that I will feel normal again. I'm no where near there yet, but just knowing its around the corner really helps. If it gets too tough, I nap if possible, walk, sip water, and watch Law and Order. Keep hanging tough, it does get better. I've been there before. I just made a bad choice by starting up again. Better days ahead! Cheers, Jan :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]1/27/2008 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 19 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 475 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $161.50 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 2 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 53 [B]Seconds:[/B] 5
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Hey how about joining us on the quit train :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/20/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 332 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,976 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $3,320.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 80 [B]Hrs:[/B] 18 [B]Mins:[/B] 1 [B]Seconds:[/B] 49
16 years ago 0 222 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Thank's Bear You could be right, I will go the doc. I did manage to got over myself and come to my work I'm ok now. And just as a matter of interest you are not Boring and give it less of the old stuff will you ( you know what they your only as old as you feel) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]1/2/2008 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 44 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,320 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �481.80 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 23 [B]Seconds:[/B] 50
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Hi lillyput Quitting smoking can grind you down sometimes but you do have 44 days in and thats very good.You may have read it here that smoking can mask or hide other problems with our health.You may want to consider seeing a doctor just in case.Just a though. :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/20/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 332 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,976 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $3,320.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 80 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 55 [B]Seconds:[/B] 52

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