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16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1113

Lizzie, I completely missed your post whilst writing. SNAP! Though you have some very good angles I had not thought about. Especially the manager stuff. I hope to follow your example. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]7/12/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 174 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,350 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �730.80 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 22 [B]Hrs:[/B] 7 [B]Mins:[/B] 29 [B]Seconds:[/B] 25

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1113

Morning All, I am starting this morning off on a positive again. Inspired by some great positive posting by you guys. Less worrying on my part today. What can I say? You lot have a profound effect on how I approach things. If I stay in a positive frame of mind, I just really don't feel like smoking...at all. What happens happens, what is done is done, you can't change the past but you can help change the future. I will take whatever comes and see if I can work some positivity into it. Thats my plan anyway. Thanks all, and I will let you know how it goes. When I write next time, I will write it, then come back and remove all magnification, fortune telling error, labelling etc. So what will be left is the reality of the situation and not an emotionally distortioned view of what happened. Smoking will not actually make anything better in reality, even though I often think it is better to hide behind the cloud. I plan on not smoking, whatever happens. HUGS from Kev [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]7/12/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 174 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,350 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �730.80 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 22 [B]Hrs:[/B] 7 [B]Mins:[/B] 20 [B]Seconds:[/B] 22

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 579

Kev, I have seen studies that say that when people quit smoking, then performance can suffer in the first 6 months, but is back to normal at 1 year. From year 1 onwards, performance often exceeds the pre-quit levels + less sick leave, so employers gain in the long term. You might want to have that argument up your sleeve. OK, so if you have really filled in the form in a 'fit of pique', you can use the appraisal interview as an opportunity to revisit and correct things. To some extent, the process has become a 'game' that you have to play. But there is nothing you can do to avoid this game, so some thoughts: o you will not always be marked fairly - sometimes you have to take this on the chin, other times you have to challenge it - select which battles you want to fight and which to leave. o some people are not very good at managing or giving appraisals, so sometimes it is their lack of skill in explaining things. So you have to be a bit philosophical, and try and stay positive. I know this is really hard if you feel someone is making an unfair criticism. Try and see it as a bit of give and take. Also, rather than just saying that a goal is "rubbish", suggest what the goal should have said. This turns a negative into a positive. The more things you can turn around, the more positive you appear. OK. Now go get them! Lizzie :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]4/23/2003 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 1715 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 25,725 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �6,431.25 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 176 [B]Hrs:[/B] 10 [B]Mins:[/B] 1 [B]Seconds:[/B] 29

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16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1093

Hi Lizzie. Thanks for the info. I buy books off of amazon myself. I guess it was the "mr" that threw me. Kev - I wonder if your appraisal will be better since you smell so much better now. Also, if you are at all like me, you (although obviously nervous) are more relaxed and carrying less stress than when you smoked. It's ALL good, Kev. :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]8/25/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 129 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,870 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $754.65 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 11 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 35 [B]Seconds:[/B] 5

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1356

Kev, While I am sure your appraisal will rock, because you, you know, rock, smoking is certainly not an option, as you know, and for sure, you know, will not change the result of said appraisal or related stress. right? So better find another outlet love, perhaps some Cadbury's? Relax Kev. You will be fine. You can't smoke, you quit already silly. John made me watch Mr Bean goes on Holiday the other night. Don't you feel bad for me ;p xo Sue [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]5/3/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 243 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,430 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $425.25 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 23 [B]Hrs:[/B] 18 [B]Mins:[/B] 6 [B]Seconds:[/B] 59

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 2223

Kev thanks for explaining :) Tresa [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]8/8/2002 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 1972 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 39,440 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $6,902.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 281 [B]Hrs:[/B] 22 [B]Mins:[/B] 56 [B]Seconds:[/B] 39

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16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1113

Lizzie, you got there first, with a better explanation! Kelly, what Lizzie said. Hope you are having a great evening. Thanks for sticking with me. I hope Avril is safe. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]7/12/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 173 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,325 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �726.60 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 22 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 35 [B]Seconds:[/B] 26

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1113

Kelly, Mr Amazon is my nickname for a massive online store that has a lot of stuff that I like. I worked out that I used to spend an absolute minimum of �35 a week on ciggies. So I now have a budget of �140 a month on ciggies/music vouchers etc. Its and either or thing, I cannot do both. Lizzie is right about the impulse buying thing. I gotta stop that right now and plan things a bit better. It is recommended I write down a list of things I like, then prioritise them and then do the same in 4 weeks. If it is still is a 'must have' then and only then buy it. Well, I guess I didn't explain myself very clearly about the 3pm stuff. It is that time, once a year, that I have my appraisal. These things worry me enormously and in the past I haven't even been able to sleep the night before, felt sick and chain smoked before the event and after, no matter the result. Everyone in my family knows how worried I have been even before christmas. I've never been any good at flowering things up and writing about how great I am and write with a kind of matter of fact-ness. However, this year, I wrote and submitted it as a truly vexxed new non-smoker. There was not even the slightest bit of flowering going on, more like a yes or no answersheet and then pointing out flaws in the goals in the first place. Things that could never be achieved, even in a perfect world etc. All I can do is give it my best in the appraisal and bite my lip and try not to blubber or act like a complete idiot. You probably guessed that I am emotionally charged again. Eventually I will calm down. Taking it in small steps, my plans are, nice warm bath tonight, followed by some cold medicine for my blocked sinus and banging headache. Then tomorrow, before the meeting, I will make time to calm down again and remind myself that quitting was a good thing to do. You will be in my mind all the time, helping me to stay away from the cigarettes. I am sure that I will make it through smokefree. That was just the junkie me talking up yet another escape route. It happens quite a lot and each time the junkie has been fustrated. I will let you know how it went tomorrow. I am still learning on a daily basis how to cope with various situations, a teeny tiny bit at a time. And that is very good thing. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]7/12/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 173 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,325 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �726.60 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 22 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 34 [B]Seconds:[/B] 52

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 579

Kelly, Mr Amazon is a reference to the website called Amazon - in the UK, it is probably the biggest online retailer of CDs, books etc etc. It's like the biggest store you could ever imagine....and I too spend a lot of my rewards there. I am not sure what happens at 3pm either! Answers on a postcard? Hey Kelly - good to see you. Lizzie :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]4/23/2003 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 1714 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 25,710 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �6,427.50 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 176 [B]Hrs:[/B] 8 [B]Mins:[/B] 26 [B]Seconds:[/B] 29

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16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1093

Lol, Kev. I only have one thing to say about that...It's your money so it's your business. Just yours. :) I also have couple questions... What is Mr Amazon? And what happens at 3pm tomorrow? :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]8/25/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 129 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,870 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $754.65 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 11 [B]Hrs:[/B] 16 [B]Mins:[/B] 37 [B]Seconds:[/B] 0

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