goofy
My heart goes out to you...I understand the hell you are going through at this moment and wish that there were an easy path to follow. Sadly there is no single route through this that will afford comfort at every turn. However, never forget that a path does exist. A great deal of the road map is already written in your very own soul, all you need do is read it with clarity, hope and confidence.
I would suggest to you that you are not losing it...Far from it, you are in fact "getting it"...What ever spark of the imagination that moved you forward on this quest is the seed of your ultimate salvation from the chains and bonds of nicotine addiction...Make no mistake, the first premise that you must internalize is that you and I are addicts. Although I understand how difficult it must be to move down this road while your partner chooses another, the fact remains that your choice is yours and what ever obstacles come, must be met with resolve and inner confidence. The ability to choose is the key to freedom and must be seen as the most intimate and wonderful aspect of being a human being.
I do hesitate in telling you these things as in truth I have not had to do this while living with someone who has not chosen to do so. My choice is for a much more solitary life, but I do maintain that regardless of personal circumstance, the goal, the temptations and the ultimate victory remain the same.
There are others who have overcome circumstances similar to yours, listen to their advice. It is most important however, that you heed your own counsel. There is a reason that you have decided to accomplish this task, list those reasons, make them resonate in your consciousness with a singular clarity that becomes a sort of mantra of survival. If you do this and if you take action by drinking water until you are literally swimming, exercise your body and slowly free your mind from the mistaken assumption that you must smoke, a few months from now you will wonder what all the fuss was about and why you did not do this sooner. I promise you that THIS CAN BE DONE...Demons (such as the ash tray in the bathroom) have no strength except that which we give them out of our own free will...
Part of this journey is physical, but for me the bulk of it has been a mental game...Take heart in the knowledge that you are doing the best thing that you can do for yourself and ironically for those who love you in this world...Choose well, you are at this moment in time writing the footnotes for your future health and well being...
nonic
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B]12/25/2006
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 313
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 9,390
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $3,286.50
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 57 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 48 [B]Seconds:[/B] 45
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Quit Meter
$66,570.00
Amount Saved
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Quit Meter
Days: 1373
Hours: 13
Minutes: 33
Seconds: 18
Life Gained
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6340
Smoke Free Days
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Quit Meter
190,200
Cigarettes Not Smoked