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16 years ago 0 635 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
We will be waiting for you NOPE [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]9/3/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 23 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 460 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $23.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 18 [B]Mins:[/B] 15 [B]Seconds:[/B] 7
16 years ago 0 1113 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
One More Try, Thanks for writing. Hopeless? Not a chance. Just by trying and writing you are not hopeless. Quite a few here have partners that smoke and have some great advice for handling it. Each quit is a learning experience. There is no such thing as failure. Although I am probably not the best for advice on how to deal with a partner smoking I have had something similar. 1) Always remember that this quit is your own. Don't quit because someone else tells you you have to. Do you really want to quit? If yes then great. Now write down the reasons why whilst they are fresh in your head on a peice of card. 2) If you have decided on an NRT then ensure you have enough stock. You don't want to run out. Putting that patch on or swallowing that tablet is going to become a daily routine. If you're doing cold turkey then you don't have to worry about that. There is always a method best for you. This can take some time to research and some attempts. 3) Pick a stress free as possible date to start. 4) Once you quit you will already be healing. Remember it is as soon as 20 mins after your last cigarette. You may feel anxious and angry in the next couple of hours/days so break out that list you did in step 1 and remind yourself why you are doing it. 5) Come here for support. You can guaruntee you will find someone who has gone through the same situation and have some answers. This may sometimes feel like an only avenue for support. Especially if your partner is still smoking. Don't worry about it or be mad at him/her. They are still feeding their habit and haven't reached the stage you have yet. Yes YOU are the shining light now. Consult a healthcare specialist if you feel the need. 6) Write and read here often. There is no shame in asking for help. Good Luck OMT. I hope to see you soon. Hope the above helps. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]7/12/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 76 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,900 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �319.20 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 9 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 52 [B]Seconds:[/B] 54
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You aren't hopeless, you are asking for help, I think that is really smart! There are alot of people here who quit with smoking spouses, I can't imagine how they do it, but they do....because their desire to quit is greater than their desire to smoke as Healer so wisely said. I think you do want to quit. I hope you follow the great advise you were given below, and that you quit sooner rather than later. Knowledge is power, maybe spend some of this time reading the materials suggested. All the best Sue [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]5/3/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 145 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,450 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $253.75 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 13 [B]Hrs:[/B] 20 [B]Mins:[/B] 14 [B]Seconds:[/B] 22
16 years ago 0 672 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
One more Try. May i say that you should do some sort of exercise anyway, wether you smoke or not. I can almost guarantee that you'll lose weight and quit smoking at the same time. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]1/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 997 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 34,895 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $6,480.50 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 142 [B]Hrs:[/B] 13 [B]Mins:[/B] 9 [B]Seconds:[/B] 23
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16 years ago 0 695 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hopeless would be a person not posting on this site.. You are headed in the right direction.. It is true, mind over matter or mind over nicotine cravings.. WOW I can not believe how my thoughts... affect my life, my day, my attitude.. The book by Allen Carr is great to read.. I also read a book, that has nothing to do with addictions, by Joyce Myers, Battlefield of the Mind. She puts all this mind stuff into perspective. Chantix maybe something for you.. I did not use it but, everyone I know that has used it has been successful. I also spent a lot on time the first 2 weeks reading about nicotine addiction. This really helped me understand this fight for our lives. My husband smokes too. He has to still hide his cigs / and keep his butts in the dumpster.. But, I have to say when he walks outside to smoke... I do not want to smoke ever again.. I almost feel sorry for him.. Hope some of this helps with you decision. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]8/25/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 31 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 620 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $93.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 8 [B]Mins:[/B] 53 [B]Seconds:[/B] 22
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Don't give up! It took me three tries over a year to finally quit. I also used Chantix this last time and I am FREE from cigarettes for the first time in 25 years. You might want to looking this med. Also, ask your hubby to help you in this effort with his support and not smoking in front of you. Hang in there. If can quit, so can you. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]7/20/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 67 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,005 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $201.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 12 [B]Hrs:[/B] 8 [B]Mins:[/B] 22 [B]Seconds:[/B] 26
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One more try, Um, hopeless? Far from it! You've come here to ask for help and you are just in the early early stages of quitting. I believe that when you are ready, you will know it with certainty. You've gotten awesome advice from some awesome, long-term quitters who've seen a lot. Although the weight gain may be uncomfortable, smoking is SO much more dangerous for your health. Quitting may not be easy but it is so worth it and you can tell that you want it pretty badly. I went through the "every pack is my last" stage for a while before I really committed to quitting. Then nothing could stop me. You'll get there too. And who wants to wear underwear on their head? Hee hee. That's two underwear/panty references in one thread. Who would have thought? All the best [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]8/5/2004 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 1146 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 22,920 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $5,157.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 87 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 13 [B]Seconds:[/B] 43
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16 years ago 0 579 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
One More Try This is such a tough one. Ask yourself some questions : "What are you going to do between now and December?" Are you going to be here every day reading posts and preparing yourself? Are you just delaying things? (You don't have to answer these, just think about it). At the moment, you are looking at the quit as something to fear rather than something you want to embrace. You are looking at what you are giving up rather than the joy of being free. Believe me, I totally understand this - it is what keeps us smoking - the fear that we will not be able to be 'ourselves' without our fix. So how do you get to the point where you want to quit? Why do you smoke? What is stopping you quit? (Have you read Allen Carr?) You know it is not the weight (although I totally acknowledge that this is a temporary and unpleasant side effect). What I am asking you to do is face your fear. Look it in the eye and be totally honest with yourself. My dear friend Pammi says she has to put her 'Big Girl's Panties' on - she acknowledges that she is a grown up now and is responsible for her choices. The fact that you slipped up before does not mean that you will not succeed when you are ready. Why don't you start by doing the programme on this site. With best wishes, Lizzie :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]4/23/2003 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 1616 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 24,240 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �6,060.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 161 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 53 [B]Seconds:[/B] 22
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16 years ago 0 2436 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
OMT- A ? for you: (be honest w/yourself) * Is your desire to quit stronger than your desire to smoke?* The answer to the above question will give you some answers to some if not all of your questions... We are addicts... we put off quitting because we are addicts... The only way to have a successful, grounded quit is to be READY to quit... your desire to quit must be stronger than the desire to light up... When you are ready, you will put them down... no excuses... Blessings... Healer [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/5/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 569 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 19,915 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2,645.85 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 75 [B]Hrs:[/B] 8 [B]Mins:[/B] 30 [B]Seconds:[/B] 41
16 years ago 0 598 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi try, when you are ready to quit again, I would have a talk with the hubby. Ask him to hide his cigs where you will not be able to find them if you start getting one of those panicy cravings. And he needs to dispose of his butts..I've been there, searching for those long butts..it is like I got possessed! YOu have to have the "smoking is not an option" attitude; but when I am in the middle of a big crave, I am thankful that there are no cigs around that I can get to...just breath deeply, settle down, and think, "peaceful and free". My best to you. new me [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]5/26/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 122 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,928 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $610.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 16 [B]Hrs:[/B] 20 [B]Mins:[/B] 36 [B]Seconds:[/B] 55

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