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20 years ago 0 +0 / -0 4

I understand how you feel. My anxiety seems to stem from a fear of being sick and feeling sick. As a result, I feel sick almost all of the time. That makes me more anxious and I am afraid to go out and do things because I feel so crummy. I also dread being alone when I feel this way. I am lucky that my husband and I live so close to my parents so I can go there if I don't want to be by myself. I always want my husband to be close by though.

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20 years ago 0 +0 / -0 19

Katie- I can definately understand how you feel about being alone. Before the panic attacks started in my life, I went through a whole "life stage" when I was terribly afraid of being alone. I couldn't stand to be in the house. I have never been married so I was either out with people or at home alone. I wish I knew exactly how I got over it, but one day I just woke up and thought, "If this is how it feels to have to be alone, I can handle it." and from that moment, I have been OK with it. On another note, have you ever thought of checking your vital signs when you are having the panic attacks so you'll know for sure your not sick? This is something I have learned to do as a tool to reassure myself that its just panic, not illness. My last thought (and you may think its corny) but do you have any pets? Pets aren't the same as having people around, but I can say anything I want to the cat and he always listens! Its nice to have another creature around. Anyway, I hope you are doing well with being alone and I hope I was able to help! Jay

20 years ago 0 +0 / -0 91

You can do it. You'll be so happy you did. Keep me posted. Katie

20 years ago 0 +0 / -0 10

i recently called my hmo about visiting a psychiatrist now i just have to get up the nerve to go

20 years ago 0 +0 / -0 91

I hope you'll talk to a therapist about these feelings. Are you on any kind of medication? Believe me, there are many out here who care about you. You are not alone in this world. Talk to any of us on this message board when you need to. Someone will always be here to help and care. Good luck and stay in touch. Katie

20 years ago 0 +0 / -0 10

i have a different kind of fear of being alone. it sort of feels like i am not real or rather i am not humane; i feel like noone really realizes or cares that i am capable of feeling things and that the few people who do treat me like i am alive will walk out on me because they are just keeping me around untill something better comes along sometimes it gets to the point where i start to think if i were ever attacked or drowning no one would stop to help me because i don't matter or if the world swallowed me whole no one would notice

20 years ago 0 +0 / -0 91

C'mon. Hasn't anyone out there felt like this? I really need some reassurance right now. katie

20 years ago 0 +0 / -0 91

Hi, everyone. I've been struggling with this fear of being alone for years now. I really have to face it head on when my husband starts school next week. I'm 8 hours away from my family and friends (my support system). I'm just trying to understand a few things and thought if there was anyone else out there facing the same fears, maybe we can work together and figure it out. My main fear of being alone is that I'll get really sick and need someone to help me and there's nobody there. I'm only 35 so a heart attack is not in my list of fears. It's just stomach stuff. I don't know why I feel like if I'm sick I need someone, but I do. I always feel like calling someone and talking my way through it. That worked OK since my parents were only 15 minutes away and could come if I really needed them. Now, I don't have that option. My other struggle is knowing the difference between having a panic attack and whether I'm really sick or not. 99% of the time it's just a panic attack, but I always second guess myself. I always think, "This time it's for real. This time I'm really sick." Of course it's just another panic attack, but I can't seem to convince myself of that while it's happening. I know I have plenty of other things I could be doing while I'm alone. I design jewlery. I have a lot of people I can e-mail and call. I just sometimes feel like I can't even move. I get so dizzy and sick feeling (which is what I'm afraid of in the 1st place) that I'm kind of paralyzed. I know it sound crazy. I just can't move. I just sit there and panic. Ok, enough of my whining! I was just looking for insight and understanding from anyone who's been through it. Thanks for listening. katie

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