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Hi Philip, Loads of great advice posted here as always on this site. To me it sounds like you have made this remarkable acheivement through pure willpower and strength. I think you need to try and get into a more positive mood and see the benefits of what you are acheiving. I know people have used loads of methods here and succeeded in many different ways but I think you may benefit from reading Allen Carrs Easyway - I think you will find some inspiration there. Be strong - the thoughts and cravings don't last forever but it is a testament to the power of this poison that they last so long. You can fight this battle once - or admit defeat and fight it perpetually for the rest of your life......
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My dear Phillip: From the first day you appeared on the SSC I took a personal interest in your progress and non-smoking well being. I really declared you a winner from the get go not withstanding the personal hell you would experience. I have preached attitude and adjusting to a major life-style change that all would undergo during the quit process. I am going to stay with you and I hope that you are able to stay with yourself. Depending on what stage we are in our lives, we can sometimes feel like we ought to know more about who we are or how to live. We may even berate ourselves for making the same mistakes, or for just not "getting it," whatever "it" may be. We wonder how our lives would be now, if only we had "known better." During moments like these, it is important to remember that none of us are born with instruction manuals and that learning lessons is a lifelong journey. Inherent to our being born is that we are here to observe, learn, and grow. Accompanying this is a built-in guarantee that there will be mistakes and misadventures along the way. And while it is only natural that we may sometimes become overwhelmed, especially when the lessons keep coming, it is important to remember that learning to understand yourself and your world is an ongoing and active process where the journey is more important than the destination. Every lesson is intended so you can become more of who you are. And as you grow through this self-discovery, you begin to create your own instruction manual. The "how's" and "why's" are yours to discover, and part of the beauty of being alive is that these rules are always changing. If you feel that you would like to explore what your personal instruction manual may already say, then try writing down in order some of the significant events that have happened to you. It's also important to take note of what you learned from each one. When you are done, you may be surprised to discover how much you are always growing, and that every lesson learned always informs the next. That being said, there is never any need to be hard on yourself or think that you should have it all figured out. We always know as much as we're meant to know at that moment, and growing into our fullness is a process that unfolds in divine timing.
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Phillip, I know we talked about this once, but did you ever see a counselor? Please do not stop posting. Everyone who quits needs to understand that everyone's quit is different. Although newbies often ask "How long? What will I feel? Is this normal?", etc., we always try to let them know that what's normal for some may not be normal for others. And we also tell them...if it lasts, get professional help. I believe that this is a loving and caring group, and you shouldn't be afraid to talk about what's happening with you. We love you, Phillip. Rusty
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Phillip, Do you ever catch yourself self-sabotaging the things that you really want but perhaps think you don't deserve? I wouldn't expect an answer to that but it astounds me how many times I catch myself doing just that. Quitting smoking has been so built up in our heads as such a nearly impossible task that once we achieve it...where do we go? Personally, I don't think there is anything wrong with you. I think it is Old Phillip fighting New Phillip and it just happens to be an ugly, unfair and unpleasant fight. It also lasts a while and is certainly longer and more unpleasant than we would like. But as many have pointed out - we smoked for a LONG time and to undo all the things that went along with that will take some time also. The investment you are making in yourself every day that you don't quit will pay off but it is a long term investment and let's face it...ex-smokers have a bit of a tough time with the whole delaying-gratification-thing. ;) As being a non-smoker becomes WHO you are and not WHAT you are doing it will get better. That can take a while. When you picture yourself a year from now - what do you see? Certainly a non-smoker but what OTHER goals do you want to start working on? If you cross "Quit Smoking" off the list of things to do - what else is waiting for you? Hang tough Phillip. There is a superb collection of 122 hard fought days that attest to the fact that you are NOT losing the battle. When you've won you will know and I would expect you will feel about 10 years old and 20 feet tall! Sandra [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 8/5/2004 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 683 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 13,673 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $3073.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 50 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 35 [B]Seconds:[/B] 49
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River, You have received lots of great advice. Take what you need and keep it close. It is great to see that you can work with your doctor. Try and come up with a plan that is right for you. Perhaps incorporate some exercise and healthy eating, this can make a difference. If you take a look around many members experience these feelings later in their quit. You must not revel in it, yet take the relaxation time you need to recover. Yes, a reward may help to pamper you and take you mind off things. We are always here to help. Take the you time you deserve and really pamper and relax yourself. Keep Strong, Josie _____________________ The SSC Support Team.

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