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I ruined 73 hard earned days


16 years ago 0 711 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Kayla, I remember slipping, I remember feeling awful about it, I remember the support and the gentle kick from all the members here, and it helped me to pick myself up and carry on. Your daughter will give you grief whether you smoke or not.....remember being 14? :8o: I have a 14 year old son and a 12 year old daughter so do have some idea of what I am talking about......I think! Well I'm male and according to my wife I only have two faults, Everything I say and everything I do! Seriously........don't connect the teenage problems with stopping smoking and allow yourself to be conned back to the addiction. You have not wasted 73 days......they are 73 glorious days of not smoking and nobody can take them away from you! It will work out with daughter in the end and you will stop smoking! Mad Englishman [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]12/8/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 539 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,773 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �2,695.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 86 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 21 [B]Seconds:[/B] 54
16 years ago 0 156 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
What I really need to learn is some other way to deal with stress and anger. My way doesn't seem to be working all that well. I do the deep breathing, going for a fast walk, lifting weights. Sometimes it works other times I feel like I'm going to explode and this is when I crave the worst. Therapy should help but I could use other suggestions anyone else might have. I'm Hanging in there!! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/16/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 76 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,660 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $836.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 7 [B]Hrs:[/B] 6 [B]Mins:[/B] 7 [B]Seconds:[/B] 41
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Kayla, You';ve taken some good steps in the right direction today. Keep it up! It may be helpful to you to try and find other ways to release your emotions and relieve stress. A pleasuarable activity or journalling perhaps? Danielle _____________________ The SSC Support Team
16 years ago 0 3207 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Kayla I am really happy you are taking positive steps to take care of yourself and protect your quit. Being the tough one is always hard, especially when someone is trying to undermine you, but remember, love and limits are what all kids need. So, every time you have to set limits, instead of feeling bad, remind yourself you are doing something good for her. Also, I remember a while back you were proud of setting a good example for her by not smoking. Maybe that thought will help when you are tempted to light up again? I have faith in you -aloha [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/22/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 69 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,760 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $469.20 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 9 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 8 [B]Seconds:[/B] 55
16 years ago 0 2830 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I'm in awe of your strength! Forget this mistake and move on from it. Sounds like you and your daughter are just going through a rough patch, but will work things out for the best... hopefully soon! I wish you the best! Keep fighting! Crave the Quit! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]6/17/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 712 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 17,800 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2,940.56 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 50 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 52 [B]Seconds:[/B] 1
16 years ago 0 156 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi everyone, well I'm still fighting the urges even after that one smoke (stupid mistake) and have made an appointment to get into therapy for myself. I also reviewed my coping skills and my daughter and boyfriend were, and still are my triggers. I took care of one problem by having him move out. As for my daughter, I gave her the option to go live her father since he put it in her head that she can live with him anytime but when she packed up. he told her he couldn't take her. This made things worse and this was a few months ago. As much as she drives me crazy I know if she were to go live with him I would lose her. He's irresponsible and uses drugs which is why I left him 12 years ago. The courts still allowed visitation even with all the proof in the world. I don't know if I'm looking for excuses, it's just so hard sometimes when I feel helpless and get in a slump of a mood. I'm sick of crying!! Back to counseling, maintain my quit and be an evil mom for the time being. At least she talked to me a little bit last night even though she lost alot of her priveledges. I'll try to sign back on tonight. Thanks again for everything!!! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/16/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 75 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,625 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $825.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 7 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 16 [B]Seconds:[/B] 9
16 years ago 0 3541 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Kayla, how are things going for you today? [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]5/13/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 17 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 340 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $187.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 1 [B]Hrs:[/B] 18 [B]Mins:[/B] 15 [B]Seconds:[/B] 45
16 years ago 0 1543 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Kayla, I'm sure you know all the reasons to continue your quit. I also know that no one understands the stress you are feeling like you do. To stop smoking takes such a commitment mentally, that when large issues arise we don't know (or I should say, haven't learned) how to cope with both. As smokers we associated lifes "ups" along with lifes "downs" with the act of smoking. Naturally those down times are huge triggers. The reality is, that smoking has nothing to do with either. We just think it does. With that said.......know I love you as a fellow quitter in this addiction. There is NO condemnation....NO expectations. Just love and support for YOU!! "OUR GREATEST GLORY IS NOT IN NEVER FAILING BUT IN RISING EVERYTIME WE FALL" Blessings Mercy ps: I raised three teenagers single handedly. I know lots of Mom's who have. Sending them to their father's to live ALWAYS WORKS. They ultimately come back with their tails between their legs.....and a different attitude along with it. The ex spouses learn.... they really didn't want them...they only thought they did. You end up getting a break from your rebellious adolecent.....the spouse stops making things difficult...the kid realizes they had it better at home....and you've gained your authority back. Try it....what have you got to lose. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]1/21/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 128 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,560 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $572.16 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 16 [B]Hrs:[/B] 21 [B]Mins:[/B] 5 [B]Seconds:[/B] 23
16 years ago 0 2830 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Kayla, Your posts have really tugged at me. I so feel your pain! If you won't make that promise, then I'd like you to do something else. Answer this question "Do you really want to stay smoke free?" Take some time and think about that. Think about what the consequences are if you DO stay smoke free and also what the consequences are if you DON'T. And then answer that for yourself. If the answer is yes, then making a promise to post first shouldn't be an issue. But if the answer is no, then that's where the issues are... not with STAYING smoke free but rather with WANTING to stay smoke free. The thing is Kayla, if you smoke, you're not letting ANYTONE down except yourself. Perhaps if you do make that promise, you will be more likely to take enough time to think about that decision to smoke that you will decide that it's really not what you want afterall. If you REALLY want to stay quit, then your quit will be so important to you that you will do whatever it takes to keep it. If you're at a place where the quit is not that important to you, then ask yourself why and deal with that. You CAN stay quit right now, even despite all of the things going on in your life, IF you really want to. Do you? I'm really sorry about your problems. Teenagers can be really mean and brutal sometimes and it sounds like what she's doing to you is not right and it's not fair and I really am sorry that you're going through this tough time right now. One day, she'll see how right you really were (probably when she has kids of her own) but right now, she just won't. I do hope that you and your daughter straighten things out soon. (((((hugs))))) Crave the Quit! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]6/17/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 711 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 17,775 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2,936.43 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 50 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 8 [B]Seconds:[/B] 50
16 years ago 0 156 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Thanks everyone for your support and advise. Butterfly swimmer I wish I could promise to post and wait before picking up another cigarette but I don't want to let you, me and anyone else down. Like I said earlier too I wasn't near a computer when the battle started.I can only say for today I will not smoke!! I found out today she's been cutting classes and late for school alot. It seems she's getting a ride to school with her friends which she knows I would not approve of. I've tried talking to her and I don't get anywhere and I mean a heart to heart talk and no yelling. She shuts me out and it's all about her without compromise. I know her father has alot to do with this but it's a tough battle when he lets her do whatever she wants and I have rules. Anyway I'm hanging in there barely but holding on. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B]3/16/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 74 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,590 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $814.00 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 7 [B]Hrs:[/B] 1 [B]Mins:[/B] 59 [B]Seconds:[/B] 2

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