Jaz For my money your last comment is right on the mark...You know what an emotional situation this is for smokers and ex-smokers...No matter what they say all of the former want desperately to be the latter...I suspect that your sister, should she really look deep inside herself, is a little afraid that you will leave her behind...And that is a real fear for some people... Her black and white discription of the accepted benchmarks for quitting this addiction, do not take into account one small fact that all the people on this site know...EVERYONE'S QUIT IS DIFFERENT...Nor is she taking in the ramifications of the emotional side of the addiction. This may be hard to do, but right now in your quit, you need to surround yourself with people who are going to help you...It looks like your sister may not be one of those people at this moment...You need to decide about this one... You must protect your quit at all cost and if you are sensing that this is upsetting, you must walk away now and deal with it later when you are further down the road and stronger... Perhaps in the future if you do this now, you will be in a better position to help your sister when she comes to terms with the difficulty of dealing with her own quit... This is a difficult one, but first and formost, you must do that which allows you to put light between you and the addiction... Bless you on this one and stay strong nonic [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/25/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 76 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,832 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $532 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 14 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 30 [B]Seconds:[/B] 42

jaz That is bad news indeed, my favorite food these days in oatmeal with ground flax seeds...Man am I boring or what... nonic

I didn't even see the part about the slap. What I read was your nice job of handling a social situation that in old days, could have been a trigger. At least it sounds like the kind of thing that would have triggered me off. I didn't know that this is the only topic your sister does this on. I wasn't going to respond to the response to my response, and am only doing it since you brought it up - it is your post. Other responders said what I am saying, some in stronger terms than I would use. Please re-read my response and you will see that there is no tone in it. I will try to double-check my future response. FYI. My day went off w/o a hitch, just crazy busy. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/29/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 74 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 748 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $370 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 7 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 27 [B]Seconds:[/B] 25

Thanks for preaching to the choir. Feeling better? What's really the issue? That the poor darl'n wants to be an authorative figure, who can blame her? How about you addressing dealing with angry emotions w/o a cigarette? I think you did a really great job. Next time though, skip the anger part. Your sister is your sister is your sister. We all know you're right. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/29/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 74 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 746 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $370 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 7 [B]Hrs:[/B] 1 [B]Mins:[/B] 58 [B]Seconds:[/B] 7

I can totally relate. I have a hubby who sometimes has advice for me [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 9/28/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 165 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,487 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $587.4 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 16 [B]Hrs:[/B] 13 [B]Mins:[/B] 57 [B]Seconds:[/B] 11

Wow Jaz - I think you should ask your sister why she hasn't quit if it was that easy...Seems kinda stupid that she's still smoking if we can just quit and in 3 days the world will be a beautiful place. I'm afraid she's out in la la land....While some say that the nicotine will be out of our system in 72 hours...it takes many many days and months to replace all those smoking memories with non-smoking memories. Congrats on your decision to quit - Stay strong! Windy [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 9/11/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 181 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,633 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $905 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 17 [B]Hrs:[/B] 16 [B]Mins:[/B] 37 [B]Seconds:[/B] 11

LOL - I've got a sister like that! Deli [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 8/1/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 223 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,351 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �669 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 18 [B]Hrs:[/B] 19 [B]Mins:[/B] 0 [B]Seconds:[/B] 56

Jaz Message for your sister I think my craving stopped at around day 200 and something.... Deli and I have been discussing this offline today. Phil [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 8/8/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 216 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,545 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �1134 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 43 [B]Hrs:[/B] 6 [B]Mins:[/B] 57 [B]Seconds:[/B] 15

Jaz, I agree with everyone here that it definitely takes more than 3 days for the cravings to go away. Unfortunately, your sister is not the only person who thinks that. That is a VERY common misperception among many smokers that if you can go 3 days without smoking, then it is all over and done with. Well, of course, we all know that is rediculous, but many people belive it anyway. In fact, that's one of the reasons that the failure rate for quitting is so high. People believe that it will all be over in 3 days, so when it's not, they give up and quit quitting. I encourage you to show your sister some of our responses and prove to her that that's just not true. That thinking will seriously hurt her if she ever tries to quit herself. Because she doesn't understand the addiction and how long it really CAN take to get over it, then if she ever tries to quit, she might be more likely to be in the group that fails because they think that it'll all be done in 3 days. I had a roommate when I first quit who said the same thing and said that when she quit (she was still a smoker when we had this conversation, by the way), that it only took 3 days to get over it and then she was fine. I said "WHEN DID YOU QUIT?" (she was smoking a cigarette at the time of this discussion, which made it even more ironic) and she said, "well, I've quit before." I said, "WHEN?!" And she said, "well, not recently, but I have." I had known her for 9 years at this point in time and she hadn't gone 24 hours without a cigarette in the entire time I'd known her... she was speaking about when she was 16 or 17 years old... almost a decade earlier! BEFORE SHE WAS TRULY ADDICTED!!! THe things that some people come up with are downright stupid and you know it and I know it and that's all that matters. WE know the truth! And aren't you glad that you're not blinded by nic anymore and believe stupid theories that are totally false? I am! Be proud that you DO know the truth! Crave the Quit! Pam [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/28/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 499 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 12,491 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2060.87 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 35 [B]Hrs:[/B] 13 [B]Mins:[/B] 34 [B]Seconds:[/B] 40

That would not be unusual. Sometimes smokers look to those quitting and hope that they fail. That way they don't lose a smoking buddy and it reinforces and validates their own addiction. Everyone here admires your quit and all the wonderful reasons why you are quitting! :) Next time, invite me along...I'll hold her while you clobber her! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 9/8/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 184 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 9,217 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1472 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 19 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 31 [B]Seconds:[/B] 43