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I was not forced to quit due to health problems but if I had been I think my family and friends would have smoked outside but they would have also been very curious to my reactions to a forced quit. But my quit, forced or voluntered is just that my quit not theirs. I would not think less of them for their habit and I would reassure them of that. I would do my best to be as considerate of their life style as they would be of mine. My husband smokes and my best friend of 30 years smokes. Hell since I have stopped smoking I think everyone in the area has started smoking (grin) When I stopped smoking I knew these two important people in my life were not going to stop but I also knew they would be my number one supporters. I have not ask that they not smoke in front of me or that they go outside nor will I ever! This is my quit not theirs. Secretly I am hoping to lead by example. So far they are very impressed with how I am doing and are constantly singing my praise. They do offer to smoke outside or another level of the house but I refuse this offer constantly. I can tell by the way they are asking me questions that perhaps they are entertaining the idea that it might be time for them to quit also. Stranger things have happened.
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HI Tryagain, There is two sides to the story. Their smoking was inconsiderate and made you feel uncomfortable. But.... I bet they felt more uncomfortable than you!! I know so. They know you are doing (and getting the job done)...what they should be doing themselves. It is called conviction. Smokers feel uncomfortable around non-smokers because it makes them squirm. That is why smokers hang out with eachother more. They play "sweep it under the rug" game together. Sometimes when smokers become non smokers they lose a few friends. Smoking is MORE THAN JUST A HABIT.... IT IS A WAY OF LIFE....(or should I have said death..lol) Conforming to peers usually means acceptance. Sometimes you just have to take a stand. I am proud of you. I hope you are not too ill. I may have missed a post on your health. Mercy [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/21/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 54 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,096 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $241.38 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 7 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 35 [B]Seconds:[/B] 19
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Yours was a great reaction to their ridiculous action! keep staying well :)
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17 years ago 0 2631 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
try - You did such a great job of handling a difficult situation. I'm afraid I can still remember all too clearly my "addict" thinking. I felt left behind every time one of my friends quit (and, I have to admit, I secretly did not want them to succeed) It's hard for me to believe this now....but I honestly didn't want to be left alone. In addition, when someone else succeeded, it reinforced how angry I was with myself that I could not (or did not) quit. I didn't smoke in other people's homes but I definately went outside for smoke breaks. Fortunately, I guess there is a time when "the smoke clears" and we start to recognize how addicted we are and, hopefully, develop a growing desire to quit. Be proud of your quit and on how you handled a difficult situation. Windy [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 9/11/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 186 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,734 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $930 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 18 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 30 [B]Seconds:[/B] 50
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How inconsiderate of them! Even when i smoked I never smoked at home and if I visited a nonsmoker I wouldnt have thought about 'Going outside for a smoke' And talking about you stopping they way they did... Ridiculous! Phil [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 8/8/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 220 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,630 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �1155 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 44 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 20 [B]Seconds:[/B] 27
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Try, Congrats! You passed this test with flying colors! Danielle ______________________ The SSC Support Team
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This is the first time I have spent a large amount of time with people who smoke. Most people don't smoke anymore so I seldom come in contact with smokers. Yesterday a couple came over and spent the better part of the day. They smoked outside and seemed very supportive, but there was a strange little undercurrent that I couldn't quite put my finger on. They expressed a lot of sympathy for the disastrous health problems that led me to stop smoking but asked continually if I would ever get better, as in get better enough to start smoking again. Was I looking forward to getting better, what kind of medical care was I getting to help me get better. It was almost like the quit was part of a treatment that would be over when I felt better. It wasn't easy to see them running out for a smoke either. I made it through, but it was hard and I had to resort to a couple of nicorettes to pull me through which is a weakness that I will have to address fairly soon. Nevertheless I made it without cigs and breathed a sigh of relief when they left. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/27/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 48 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,454 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $480 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 6 [B]Hrs:[/B] 9 [B]Mins:[/B] 25 [B]Seconds:[/B] 37
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good for you Tryagain, Smoking is a 'lifestyle'. As i can remember being a smoker around an ex-smoker made my skin crawl, cos i knew what they were thinking when i lit up. There is bound to be some tension. however.... most smokers seem to be oblivious to it. the main thing is you did good, be very proud of yourself. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 804 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 20,114 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $5226 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 116 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 11 [B]Seconds:[/B] 36
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