Windy,
I'm not sure if this is appropriate for your thread or not, but it's the first thing that popped into my head after reading your post, so I'm just going to go for it.
Life is full of changes, some are expected and we work hard for them, like graduating high school (hopefully, lol), graduating college (for some), landing your first real job, moving out of the your parents house (yahoo). These are usually pretty exciting events and during these events we are growing more and more independent, but we are also evolving and changing as a person, doing things differently than we had when we were just two years younger.
Then we have marriage, now I'm not sure about anybody else...but that first year was full of adjustments. You went from being independent to sharing your life and decisions with another human, and you made adjustments and learned as you went. Some things you had to give up or make concessions on, but we did it and managed. Even if the marriage didn't work out, we were still "different" than we were when we were first married, and we all learned something.
Then for some of us, we had children (OMG what were we thinking, lol, just kidding), this created major changes in our lives, 10 months of expecting and anticipation. The baby arrives and all of a sudden you are a mother or a father, nothing is the same after that, it's all different. But what did we do, we adjusted, we maybe longed for the days we could sleep in, but those were long gone, at least for awhile, we longed to wear a shirt that didn't have spit up or baby food splattered on it, but eventualy we will wear clean shirts again. We couldn't wait for them to say their first word....then once they started talking, we couldn't wait until bedtime at night. But we changed and we were the same but different, we learned new things and gave up old ideals as we went along. As I look back on all the different changes in my life, quitting smoking is just another chapter of up's and down's and adjustments, and changes in my life. Once this is completed, I won't be the same, I will be different, but as in the past, I will adjust and I will be learning new things as I go and giving up old ideals. I'm not if this makes any sense to you windy, but like I said, I just went