Since the first of the year there have been legions of new quitters here. That is great! But along with that has come the inevitable reality that some will struggle. And struggle mightily I might add. You have all come here for support and to voice your concerns about your quits. Everyone here from new quitters to veterans post replies. Why do those few, determined individuals struggle so much more than others?
I think that fixating on a quit can be as destructive as walking into a bar on your second day quit. What do I mean by fixating on a quit? There are many definitions for fixating, but the one that I think most personifies the struggling, fixated quitter is definition # 4, dealing with fixating in terms of Psychology:
[b][color=blue]To attach (oneself) to a person or thing in an immature or neurotic fashion.[/color][/b]
That �thing� I believe is your quit. Basically, a person can get so wrapped up in their quit that they lose their ability to function rationally. Most quitters will have craves. Most will feel agitated. This will go on for a period of time, but it doesn�t consume them. They can still function. For the person who is fixated on their quit, their quit becomes their life and real life takes a back seat. What consumes your thoughts controls your mind.
How do you deal with it? I don�t believe that simply fighting for your quit will do the trick. Don�t get me wrong, I�m not advocating smoking, all I�m saying is that doing the same thing you have been doing isn�t going to result in a good, lifelong quit and leave you in a good emotional and physical state.
At some point the person who is grievously struggling needs to assess their quit and the impact it�s having on them and others. When all else fails, I think it�s time to regroup. Quitting should not endanger your health. We�ve all heard the line, �no one ever died from quitting�. Well, in some extreme cases, the quit may not kill you, but it can ruin your health if you allow it to take over your life. It is at this time that those individuals need some professional help. Whether it�s for medication or for counseling, they need to recognize that, for whatever reason, they can�t do it by themselves or with casual support, such as this site. It�s a tough cal
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