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Trying to deal with my husband's craves!


17 years ago 0 1150 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
If it weren't for you he'd have been having a cigarette right then? what a compliment. Certainly not a nice way to put it. we all snap people's heads off at some points in a quit. we don't mean it, but irritability is part of it. Lady is right, you both need to own your own actions in this quit and I would say, anywhere else applicable. You gotta love him. pretty soon you'll be having him both without the cigarette and w/o the grumpiness. take it in stride, it's a sign that his quit is working. :blush: [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/29/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 43 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 436 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $215 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 4 [B]Hrs:[/B] 3 [B]Mins:[/B] 19 [B]Seconds:[/B] 21
17 years ago 0 1150 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
:) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/29/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 46 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 467 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $230 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 4 [B]Hrs:[/B] 10 [B]Mins:[/B] 25 [B]Seconds:[/B] 35
17 years ago 0 2631 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I was totally miserable to be around - I sure wanted someone else to blame for how awful I was feeling. It sounds like smoking is not an option for either of you and he realizes this. It must be a struggle when you are both going through withdrawal at the same time. Just remind him that it does get better... Windy [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 9/11/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 152 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,056 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $760 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 14 [B]Hrs:[/B] 21 [B]Mins:[/B] 12 [B]Seconds:[/B] 42
17 years ago 0 8760 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Tryagain, You've gotten some great advice from your fellow quitters. Unfortunately, two quitters = snappy remarks thrown back & forth. Know this is temporary and that other couples on our site have experienced the same problems and gone on to have successful quits. Just as everyone here today said, your quit is yours and vice versa. Why not send him our way. At the very least, he can work through our program tools such as our quit program and read. This may help him come up with some coping strategies that will work for him and his quit. Hope this helps. Danielle ________________________ The SSC Support Team
17 years ago 0 8760 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Tryagain, That's great! Thanks for the update. Looks like he's getting into the swing of things. You're also doing very well! Almost at the three week mark. Danielle ______________________ The SSC Support Team
17 years ago 0 519 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Last night we got into an argument and he blamed me for his quit. I know he was having a really bad time and tried some techniques I learned here but it didn't help. He didn't cave, but he was still mad. He's been so supportive through this I was shocked. Not only that but he knows that his health deteriorated badly too and now feels better. I hope it was just a momentary crave that passed and now he's back to normal. I'm using gum he's going cold turkey so that may have something to do with it. I don't want anyone to misunderstand. I have not nagged him or anything or told him or asked him to quit. My heath problems are so severe that being around smoke is no longer an option for me. One of his habits was to get up several times a night, sit on the edge of the bed and smoke. Then I would choke and couldn't breathe. Going outside isn't an option. We don't have a garage to go to. Not only that, but he's not a well man either with all sorts of smoking related health issues. It hurt my feelings terribly that he said "If it weren't for you I'd be enjoying a Marlboro right now". [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/27/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 14 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 433 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $140 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 1 [B]Hrs:[/B] 21 [B]Mins:[/B] 39 [B]Seconds:[/B] 9
17 years ago 0 519 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I think he's over it. We went to a trade show Sunday, which is always stressful. He walked from the car to the hotel without stopping - a first. We were at the show, walking the whole time, all day and he didn't have to use his breather one time. At the end of the day we were both very tired, but without cigs, no one was out of breath. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/27/2007 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 17 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 530 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $170 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 2 [B]Hrs:[/B] 8 [B]Mins:[/B] 0 [B]Seconds:[/B] 53
17 years ago 0 5195 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
tryagain, I have been following your quit. I hope what I say doesn't upset you. Your quit belongs to YOU and your husbands quit belongs to HIM. A quit is a very personal thing. Quitting is breaking an addiction. Put two junkies in a room together for several days and take away their drug of choice (for us it is nicotine). You can bet it will not always be a peaceful setting. You have to focus on your quit and allow him to do what he needs to do to get through his. I am a cold turkey quitter and I will tell you I was not pleasant to be around early in the quit. I would yell and say mean things that I later had to apologize for. I even remember saying to my kids "wouldn't you rather I smoke than be mean like this all the time?" Their reply to me was quite shocking. They told me to yell away. Just don't smoke. That was when I realized how important MY quit was to them. They couldn't quit for me however they did inspire me to continue. I had to do the work. I had help from many on this site and don't know how I would have made it without the people here but I still had to do the work. No one could do it for me and you cannot do it for your husband; however you can encourage him. Try telling him how proud of him you are and how much you appreciate him sharing this experience with you. Talk about the things you will do with the money you save and how much better you are feeling now that you aren't smoking. Put the quit in perspective. It is a wonderful thing. Remember that this is just a temporary state. Eventually your life will return to some form of new normal. Take some realy deep breaths and remind your hubby to do the same. Sounds like you are both ready for that two week reward! Congratulations! You are doing great. Quitting isn't easy for everyone. Some of us have to work for it. Hang in there and just remember No smoking allowed. No matter what! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 589 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 11,788 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2061.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 53 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 6 [B]Seconds:[/B] 19

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