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18 years ago 0 2838 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Great attitude, hannaher! And a very wise decision. I hope you and your sister have a blast at the spa!!! :)
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In the beginning I did not want to be around people that smoked at all. My quit was an infant and I had to protect it with all my might. Now I can be around smokers and I don't crave at all. I am not scared that I will be tempted at all. The stuff stinks and will kill you. No thanks. Having said all that ... I still do not want to be around smokers in an enclosed area. Even when I am outside ... I do not want to breathe in their smoke. I didn't quit to keep on having to inhale it. I want to live. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 131 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,948 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $524 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 11 [B]Hrs:[/B] 1 [B]Mins:[/B] 42 [B]Seconds:[/B] 13
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Hugs for gonnadoit. Can we help? Danielle _____________________ The SSC Support Team
18 years ago 0 2436 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hello hannaher - Alot of wisdom here for you :) What I have found in my Quit process (this is my first and last Quit) is that it's up to me to protect my Quit with everything in me... I made some decisions, even fairly recently, based on my need to protect my Quit...and taking care of ME is taking care of my Quit. Allow your intuition to guide you regarding your friends ~ and hold your Quit up - out of any danger, and keep yourself focused on what you need to do for YOU... Special Blessings- Healer [url=[IMG]http://i52.photobucket.com/albums/g31/healerwithin/nosmoking.gif[/IMG]][IMG]http://i52.photobucket.com/albums/g31/healerwithin/nosmoking.gif[/IMG][/url] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/5/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 198 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 6,953 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $920.7 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 25 [B]Hrs:[/B] 18 [B]Mins:[/B] 25 [B]Seconds:[/B] 19
18 years ago 0 586 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
hannaher... I think your friends probably do care about you but they sense they'll just be too uncomfortable with feeling they can't feed their addiction as they feel like it. Anyway, with 3 smokers in the same car...and all 3 taking different smoke breaks...you'd have to add 3 days to your trip just to get there ;) I would think that your friends are probably envious that you've quit too. I know when I was a smoker, that if someone told me they'd quit smoking it would put those thoughts in my mind that I needed to quit as well. That made me feel guilty...and somehow pressured?...although it was self imposed. Every time I saw them, I'd ask.."so are you still quit?". I'm not sure why, but I always awaited their failure. If they were still going strong, then my guilt and thinking only increased. You're planting seeds in your friends minds and I'm sure at some level they're envious of your quit. I don't know a smoker alive that deep down wishes they didn't smoke. I think you've made a wise decision in going with your sister. This will show your friends that you're very serious about your quit. You can still be friends, just not cooped up with them to the point that you feel your quit is endangered. If then, on short term, they refuse to be with you so they can smoke... I'd definitely wonder if they were true friends...but I doubt that'll be the case. Sincere people in your life won't stop caring about you just because you've quit smoking. Creatures of habit (and addiction) are hard to change. Someday in the future, maybe you'll feel stronger to the point that you can go with them... but by then, you may not be the only person that quit smoking in your circle of friends :) Hang in there. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/2/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 593 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 11,868 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2117.01 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 62 [B]Hrs:[/B] 19 [B]Mins:[/B] 58 [B]Seconds:[/B] 29
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should have said "can't imagine being without their fix." [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/13/2004 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 643 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 18,018 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2250.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 88 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 29 [B]Seconds:[/B] 49
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18 years ago 0 2462 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
This is such a difficult issue, and Josie is right. They don't have to accommodate you, but you don't have to be miserable either. Can you go separately from them? Can you get a different room? If you can't do either of those, and they aren't willing to compromise, then your best bet is to not lose your quit over this. There will be other years and other trips. You are the one who has to decide what is the best and healthiest thing for you. They are still addicts who can't imagine not being without their fix. We were all that way once. Rusty :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/13/2004 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 643 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 18,018 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2250.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 88 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 29 [B]Seconds:[/B] 43
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18 years ago 0 763 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
how long is the car trip?? do you think you can manage that?? will they agree to lower windows when they smoke in the car?? as to the room....get your OWN room if you really want to go on this trip....how about ajoining rooms? that way you can be with them and still have access to a smoke free area? the answers to these questions all fall on your shoulders....it just depends what YOU are willing and able to put up with. The quit is YOURS...not theirs (but I think they should at least "try" to accommodate you in some ways?) it just boils down to "can you keep your quit and still do this trip?" only you can answer that....my advice is if there is a question here....don't go. and don't you dare feel like the looser here.....cause you are the WINNER....even if you stay home!! hang tough....be proud of yourself Katy [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/4/2002 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 1717 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 68,700 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $9786.9 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 224 [B]Hrs:[/B] 0 [B]Mins:[/B] 36 [B]Seconds:[/B] 17
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18 years ago 0 763 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
aahhhh gonnadoit.....You express my gut feeling, even though I realize we can't impose 'our' quit on others.....when I quit smoking, all my best friends who were smokers either "volunteered" to not smoke when with me, or curtailed their smoking to the minimum....even in their OWN homes, they obstained to help me keep my quit......I call that real friendship.....they didn't HAVE to do it, but they did....for me. sometimes a quitters so called friends would secretly like to see them fail...your success points out their weakness?? whatever you do....hang tough Katy [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/4/2002 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 1717 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 68,705 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $9786.9 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 224 [B]Hrs:[/B] 1 [B]Mins:[/B] 0 [B]Seconds:[/B] 13
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Hanna, It is hard for others to accept that what you are doing benefits everyone :) They are right, they do not have to quit cause you did. You are right, then don't all have to smoke at the same time all the time. This is something you can not control. Take the time to make a choice and tell them about it. You are doing this for you and if you believe that can't go through this right now, then tell them so. Friends will understand and help you through. If you really want to go, then use those coping mechanisms and try using distraction techniques to get you out of the "smoking way" Let us know what you decide and know that you are doing a great thing here and you should never feel guilty about your choice! Keep Strong, Josie _____________________ The SSC Support Team.

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