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Bgaineshunter, I'm so sorry, you know smoking won't fix anything, it'll only make it worse. Take pride in what you've accomplished, you've gone through a lot to reach those stats, don't waste it, you need to think of yourself first. This relationship was hurting you ,maybe time to stand back and see what happens. Please keep posting and don't smoke it's gonna make matters worse. Sincerely Marie [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 6/13/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 77 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,155 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $308 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 10 [B]Hrs:[/B] 3 [B]Mins:[/B] 48 [B]Seconds:[/B] 38
18 years ago 0 3368 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Non-smokers have relationships that don't work out. Conflict is part of life. Learning new coping skills is what needs to be done, not lighting up a cigarette. Smoking will solve nothing. Do not spend your energy smoking. Direct your energy in a positive direction; learning new coping skills, talking kindly to yourself, loving yourself and being patient with yourself. No junkie thinking allowed. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/12/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 109 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,294 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $436 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 9 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 43 [B]Seconds:[/B] 37
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18 years ago 0 562 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
;)Hi bgainshunter: Good to hear you are back on track. I read about your problems with your friend and did you know that is just one of the things with alzheimers my dad who never cussed called me all kinds of things and accused me of taking his beautiful brush set(never knew what that was) and all his furniture. They are just not the people they were there are groups for caregivers and family contact your local alzheimer group. If you get rid of that problem then it will be easier to stay quit. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/5/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 177 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,625 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $354 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 25 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 2 [B]Seconds:[/B] 16
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The only way to quit smoking is to not smoke. Good for you for seeing your way through and congratulations for getting back on the horse and riding, kicking the demon to the curb, taking control of your junkie however you want to say it. Get back up, dust yourself off, and get back on the quit journey. Phillip [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/17/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 193 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,877 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1447.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 31 [B]Hrs:[/B] 14 [B]Mins:[/B] 14 [B]Seconds:[/B] 15
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Another post I bumped for you Bgaines. Stay Strong [url=http://www.stopsmokingcenter.net/support/viewmessages.aspx?forum=1&topic=29023]Thinking about Slipping[/url] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/17/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 192 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,859 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1440 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 31 [B]Hrs:[/B] 10 [B]Mins:[/B] 48 [B]Seconds:[/B] 29
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bgaines You really have come a long way. Will you post more about what is going on. One of the things that really helps me in my huge up and down is knowing and revisiting the reasons I quit. For me: I needed to get my health back I needed to take control of my life not let my life be controlled by my addict and the urge to smoke There are more ... . Please revisit what your reasons were for quitting. Post here. Keep reading and looking at what others here say about slipping and coming back. If you need to cry and wail do so, if you need to pull the covers up and sleep away do so. Do whatever you need to keep quit and do whatever you need to find your strength and resolve. Phillip [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/17/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 192 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,859 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1440 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 31 [B]Hrs:[/B] 10 [B]Mins:[/B] 47 [B]Seconds:[/B] 14
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bg, I've been waiting for something like this to happen to me. In my mind I've labeled them as "life crises". I'm expecting them... I've had some minor ones... but I know that throughout my life, there will be things to experience that may test my quit. These "life crises" are things that don't happen on a daily basis. They're things like the loss of a loved one, an illness, a wreck... As sad, stressed or afraid as we may feel during those times... we need to know that it's temporary, that we'll move through them. We need to hang tough and remember that the punishment we'd put on ourselves for giving up a quit would only add more negativity to an already stressful situation. Somehow in our addicted minds, when we see everything as dark and sad, when we think we just don't care anymore, we think smoking somehow will ease our feelings or help get us through it. When the fog lifts, we realize our right minds know differently. Whether you're dealing with alzheimer's or some other problem, know that you're not the only one. There are people that have been in your situation. You're not alone in trying to quit under difficult conditions and as you can see from this thread, there are a lot of people that care. I hope this day finds you feeling better :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/2/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 573 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 11,473 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2045.61 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 60 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 41 [B]Seconds:[/B] 48
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18 years ago 0 586 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
bg, As I watch my own parents health decline, I often wonder that when the day comes that I lose one of them if I too will have enough days under my belt. Will 600 be enough? 6000? I honestly don't know that there'd ever be enough in that situation because I've not been there... but, if life follows it's normal course, I know this will more than likely be something I'll experience and probably within the next few years. I know those thoughts of smoking will probably creep in because smoking is what I used as a way of coping/escaping for so many years. I've prepared myself the best I know how. I've made a commitment to myself. You said, "I started craving so bad [u]again[/u]", so you've gotten through them before. Cravings will continue for while. When they don't happen as often ....that's when it can be so dangerous to forget to prepare and become lax in the techiques we learned in those early days. I would think the "clarity" you felt was more like a "wake up moment"? And it wasn't from the act of smoking...but in "feeding the beast", then the realization that you would have to work through this crises ...that smoking solved nothing ...and you'd damaged your quit and maybe even some confidence in yourself. At least that's what I'd imagine how I'd feel. Something that's helped me is having an item that I can literally hold in my hand. I have glass paperweight with "NOPE" and my quit date engraved on it. I think giving my commitment a solid feel and something I can see has been a great reminder of the commitment I've made to myself when my mind has felt weak. One thing is for sure, I've yet to see a single person that thought slipping or relapsing was a good idea... and while it's disheartening to see it happen, I do appreciate you posting because we can all learn from it... I know I have. Glad you're back on track so quickly, bg ... be ready for that "round 2"... and I hope things are looking up for you soon. :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/2/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 574 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 11,488 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2049.18 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 60 [B]Hrs:[/B] 19 [B]Mins:[/B] 42 [B]Seconds:[/B] 27
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BG, You cannot control another person's actions or feelings. Only your own. I wish I could help you deal with the loss of a friend, but all I can do is empathise and pray that you'll find a way to help her even if you can't find a way to salvage the friendship. You do have control over yourself however. And the time to exercise that control is right now. did you fight for this quit alll the way till now....just to throw in the towel? Do you really want to throw it all away? Do you really want to start over and do hell and heck week again? You can throw your quit away along with the friendship...but will you feel better? or worse? And how long before you try again to take your life back from the addiction? I told you once that it wasn't the first cig that scared me...it was the 100 or a100 that came after. This is what you said to me..... [quote] That right Ladybugg. I was romancizing something yesterday that doesn't exist for me. I did eventually imagine me on my rocker, chain smoking. [/quote] Now imagine the oxygen tank sitting next to the rocker. What a shame sitting on the front porch in the fresh air and can't even get a good breath of it. I don't wish that for you BG...keep the quit. Prayers for you and your friend. [color=Purple]~bugg huggs~[/color] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/17/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 530 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 29,685 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $3710 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 51 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 12 [B]Seconds:[/B] 50
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18 years ago 0 12049 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Bg, You have received some great advice and support. Take what you need and keep it close. Your right your friend may have a problem and wishes to keep it to themselves and in turn pushed you away. The choices are yours, and you already know you can do this. Smoking will bring nothing to the table and will only make you feel worse. Take the 24 hour rule and give yourself some fresh air :) Keep Strong, Josie _____________________ The SSC Support Team.

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