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Lady, What you say is so right - just like you, I would light up and keep going. A challenge in front of me? I could handle anything, just let me get my cigarettes out and find a lighter, and I'm good. Feelings coming up? Hang on, need a cigarette first, then I deal with it (after I numb myself with the nicotine)... I sure had that one down. No matter what, I had the cigarette, and all that went along with it, to keep the bad, painful stuff away. And it worked. And now I live in a different world. I live in a world of FREEDOM - I live by choice, not by addiction. So I am learning new ways to cope, to deal with the day to day life without that cigarette... Thanks for being on this journey with me, and for lending a hand and heart when I am lost. Thanks, Lady, for your wisdom and your care. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/5/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 46 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,610 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $213.9 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 5 [B]Hrs:[/B] 23 [B]Mins:[/B] 13 [B]Seconds:[/B] 31
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Hi oinkoink2u - Thanks so much for your post and for your prayers... Bless you too, dear one - thanks so much for reaching out ... I feel your love. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/5/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 45 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,609 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $209.25 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 5 [B]Hrs:[/B] 23 [B]Mins:[/B] 3 [B]Seconds:[/B] 23
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Hi All, I am so sad... And I need you all right now, so I am reaching out to you... My day seemed fine - went and got a haircut from a friend who I always love to see:) so that was a treat for me. Came home and worked with some of my clients, and (well here we go with me and Larry King again) and well... I turned on Larry King and there was Barry Manilow. At first I thought, damn, Barry Manilow... You see, I loved someone it seems so long ago, who was a musician, and his gentleness, love and compassion has always reminded me of Barry Manilow - Ken played the piano so beautifully... One of our songs was Manilow's song, 'This One's For You'... When there were pictures shown on the show from Barry Manilow's past, some of them (with longer hair) looked just like my Ken. I used to tease Ken that he and Manilow had so much in common - when Ken played the piano, women swooned, just like they always do for Manilow. He would just look at me and say, 'Barry Manilow????? LOL Well, I loved Ken. I loved him so much. And we shared a connection I have never had with anyone else. Ken got sick. He moved back to MS from his homes in NY and DC... He went back home to die. We had so little time. He called me when he knew his days were limited and I thought and thought, and was so scared. You see, Ken had the most beautiful voice -he was a singer, and had just an incredible voice. When he asked me to come and see him, we both knew time was short. I heard that voice and was so afraid of what I would see... I just couldn't imagine seeing this young, tall, slim, blonde haired blue eyed GQ model love of my life thin, sick, dying. I went. I had to go and say goodbye. I had to see him, talk to him, love him, be with him just one more time. A friend and her two kids and I headed out from Houston to Biloxi, MS... I went to the hospital, and his room had a dark window I could see through. But when I tried to peek in, I could only see a number of people surrounding a hospital bed. They could all see me, but for some reason, they were all a blur to me. I opened the door. There were so many people, I couldn't even see Ken's bed. I heard Ken's mom say, 'Well look who's here, Ken wake up'... I walked around the foot of the bed, people move
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Healer, So good to hear from you, my hand will always be available when ever you have a need. Thank you my dear for being so kind. You are knocking down those days, you're almost half way to the beach. I finally made it to the beach, I have you a place and I know you will love it. Blessing of love sent to you, SUNSHINE [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/7/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 103 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,751 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $360.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 14 [B]Hrs:[/B] 19 [B]Mins:[/B] 38 [B]Seconds:[/B] 20
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Healer, Now I understand. When your soulmate is gone a part of you is gone. My thoughts and prayers reach out to you. Ken reached out to you tonight in a very special way. And it was when you could understand, and yes I have many of night when it would have just been nice to smoke. Healer, you are not along. Blessings of light and love sent your way.... SUNSHINE [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/7/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 98 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,672 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $343 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 14 [B]Hrs:[/B] 3 [B]Mins:[/B] 32 [B]Seconds:[/B] 5
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Healer, what a touching post, we all have long lost friends and family that we think of with great affection just like you. I will think of you today, god bless you. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/6/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 68 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 819 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �170 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 12 [B]Hrs:[/B] 11 [B]Mins:[/B] 9 [B]Seconds:[/B] 59
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Healer... I so understand what you are saying about being numb. I believe that we let ourselves go numb when we are no longer capable of dealing with the realities that face us. I know exactly where you are in your quit process because I have been there. I too hid behind the addiction and never dealth with losses and emotions. It's really hard to put this in words but I know exactly where you are. I guess it's that mirror thing happening. Smoking is what kept me going day after day. I know that sounds crazy but it is true. When life got too tough, have a smoke and start again. When I felt like giving up, I would smoke and proceed forward. When my world fell apart (loss of love and security and all that goes with it), I smoked and moved on. I never went through the grieving process. When I quit smoking, I lost another friend. My cigarette, My crutch, my lifeline. I was so down and depressed and a good friend helped me work through some issues that I had refused to deal with in the past. I think we have to openly admit what we have been in denial over in order to be able to put it behind us and move forward. For the first time in over 10 years, I put mistakes behind me and was able to grieve the losses of what could have been and what I thought should have been (much like you grieving your friend in this post). There are people who touch our souls and they are few and far between. When they come into our lives, we need to cherrish every moment we have with them. They are so unlike any other relationship we have ever had before and probably unlike any we will ever experience again. Grieve your friend and any other losses you may have ignored and refused to deal with over the past years. This is part of growing in your quit. The emotions will no longer allow you to hide them. They will come out no matter how much you try to fight them. Deal with them, put them behind you and move on. This is part of the journey to freedom. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 288 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,776 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1008 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 25 [B]Hrs:[/B] 10 [B]Mins:[/B] 50 [B]Seconds:[/B] 30
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I think it's gr8 that we have this safe place to come and share our deepest feelings and emotional journies and with such caring people who are always here for each other :) Tears are such a gift from GOD, we all deserve to grieve our losses and the calm after the storm is always so comforting. What's really amazing is time after time we make it through those tough moments and we grow stronger and stronger. And what's really cool is how we can take turns being there for one another in those times of need. I saw Barry on American Idol recently :) He's a very sweet person! I can only imagine how wonderful your Ken was and I'll bet he's with you all the time :) You're doing the emotional work that comes with quitting. Be proud of yourself & keep up the good work! We're all here with you :) No matter what don't lite up... Keep on keepin on... Cherie
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Healer, thank you so much for opening your heart even wider than you already have. Like the others, I believe that Ken is there watching, being so proud. To me, that is the true meaning of resurrection -- there is no death, there is always life and light, regardless of where we are. Eve, you are so right that the Light is within us. And if we choose to be, we are the beacons of that Light to the rest of the world. Love and Light to all. Rusty :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/13/2004 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 488 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 13,675 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1708 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 67 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 19 [B]Seconds:[/B] 33
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