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18 years ago 0 28 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I agree with Tenielle. Get your man smoking outside if he isnt already. It's not good for the kids as well as for you. As far as dealing with the kids, maybe someone might be able to help you with finding some free time for yourself, maybe Mom, or your hubbie when he gets home from work. Free time will get you some sanity, which will make it a bit easier. Stress for me is the worst. an argument with the wife immediately has me craving.I could only imagine a screaming newborn. Good luck
18 years ago 0 105 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Don't forget why you stopped. Remember how cruddy you felt before you quit? I am feeling junky right now. Coughing up a lung and a half trying to clean them out. GAG! I have spent most my life dealing with babies and preschooler. IE the closet smoking part. I never smoked until night - once they were in bed for the night. I dealt with kids all day long and knew that I couldn't stink or they would know. Who wants some ashtray watching their kid? Kids are the most stressful things. First they need all of you. Then once you are used to that they don't need you. Then they are going crazy at school and all those issues. I understand them making you want one. Preschoolers and babies are the hardest and the best at the same time. Remember, your baby will be safe in the crib (even if crying) for two minutes for you to close yourself in your room and wash your face with cold water. YUP! Cold water. It will totally zap you back into feeling a bit more "awake", "up", with it. Then go and get the baby. Preschoolers - remember there is nothing more fun than the tupperware! I used to pull it out and let my REALLY tough - too active - now ADHD toddler to task of putting the lids on. He would actually sit there and let me SIT. By the way - give up on the whole "perfect house" thing. You have preschoolers and they didn't read the manual. Sorry to hear that hubby still smokes. Mine does too - but I don't want cancer and I know I would be walking that way if I wasn't quit. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/21/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 5 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 36 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $6.75 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 2 [B]Seconds:[/B] 54
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18 years ago 0 456 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Balletnut ! I quit smoking when I found out that I was pregnant too. I was fine as long as I had the baby inside.. I didn't even care about smoking. This is the truth.. I was no more in the hospital room alone for the first time after the baby was born, when I craved a cigarette. It came from out of nowhere. I was not in the I must not smoke frame of mind.. I just got someone to bring me cigarettes. I smoked that day and picked up right where I left off. It has to be psychological.. I can't explain it otherwise. I have found that beign really close (physically) with my kids keeps me on the quit track. I don't want to miss out on that because I smell like smoke again and don't want them around it. I know it is hard when the anxiety gets high.. I guess finding a replacement for that break could be the answer. Take 5 and get a coffee .. step out to drink it. Take 5 and get a snack... again step out (so you don't have to have 3 year old staring you down ..lol) Take 5 and read the newspaper.. step out for quiet.. Just anything to give yourself a break.. God knows you do need breaks from kids.. You are going to be okay.. but.. perfect time to put a little pressure on Dad to give it up.. :) Take an exercise class.. it will make you feel good and reinforce the not smoking. (They have builtin childcare !!) Great Luck to you !! Christine [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/1/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 24 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 624 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $84 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 2 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 29 [B]Seconds:[/B] 3
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I so know what you mean by the kids and stress thing and so desperately wanting quiet time...goeing outside for a breather will help...you don't have to smoke for it to help. Also does your hubby smoke outside? I hope so, otherwise maybe you can ask him to do so. If not to make it easier for you, but for the kids' sakes. I did read somewhere recently that the chemicals on your clothes from smoking can affect your children's health. Also if you are breast feeding you don't want to give your baby nicotine through you. All in all, being a smoking mom is not fun. Actually it's worse because then you got your three year old holding open the door (and believe me they figure out where you hide) and yelling Mommy stop smoking! so the whole neighber hood can hear and won't quit till you stamp out that unfinished butt and go inside even more stressed then before. (This is a daily occurance around my house and one of the reasons I want to quit) It's not worth it. Celebrate that one year anniversary early and take a couples weekend. You deserve it! Tennielle
18 years ago 0 52 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
balletnut, Watch the junkie talk!!! Lots of newbies in here would give their right arm to be where you are. People at 3days going through hell. All the advice above is good. Just remember you are an ex-smoker, an addict who has quit. It's a cliche and i hate it but you really are just one cigarette away from a life of smokings!! Stay strong, don't let this slip by. In all sincerity, Peter
18 years ago 0 327 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Remember that old adage "one is too many and 1,000 are not enough! Smack the junkie, Janet [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/23/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 218 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,375 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1090 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 28 [B]Hrs:[/B] 20 [B]Mins:[/B] 26 [B]Seconds:[/B] 47
18 years ago 0 563 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
balletnut, Congratulations on your great quit and your new arrival! You know, when people quit smoking they don't quit living. Continue to give yourself those little timeouts. This time, instead of smoking, perhaps read a quick chapter in a book or pick up a favorite magazine. The smoking didn't help you deal with stress, the time away from the stressful situation did. Think about how to take those breaks and you'll find that you never really needed those cancer sticks in the first place. I take it that your husband doesn't smoke inside? You mentioned stepping outside, so I'll take a guess and hope that he smokes outside as well. One thing you don't want to do is to subject your kids to second hand smoke. Continue to be that great example for your husband and perhaps he will put them down too.. Best wishes. [b][color=Purple]Be Strong. Be Smart. Be Quit[/color] [color=black]Joe[/color] [size=3][color=Blue]Knowledge Replaces Fear[/color][/size] [size=2][color=black]Illegitimus non carborundum est[/color][/size][/b] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 288 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 7,209 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $705.6 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 50 [B]Hrs:[/B] 11 [B]Mins:[/B] 13 [B]Seconds:[/B] 5
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18 years ago 0 1110 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Do you want your babies to remember the stinky smoke smelling mom or the sweet smelling mom? [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 4/21/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 311 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 6,237 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2332.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 40 [B]Hrs:[/B] 18 [B]Mins:[/B] 47 [B]Seconds:[/B] 39
18 years ago 0 2 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I'm almost to my year quit date.... my problem is that I got pregnant 2ish months after I quit and of course did not smoke then. I had the baby a little over 6 weeks ago and also have a nearly 3 year old at home and am a stay at home mom. I am so damned stressed it is not even funny and my husband smokes so I am really having a rough time staying smoke free. I think when I'm listening to my children cry or whine or whatever they're doing at the time, wow, I could put the baby down and set the 3 year old in front of the tv and go outside and have a smoke break, 5 min of quiet, ooooh, how nice that'd be. I have not had a hard time with cravings until today. It is bad. I know I won't cave, it was way too hard to quit, but I am so wanting a cig. Thought stopping by here again would help me. Thanks for listening. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/12/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 350 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,264 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1050 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 27 [B]Hrs:[/B] 1 [B]Mins:[/B] 28 [B]Seconds:[/B] 36
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18 years ago 0 1073 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
hello balletnut, it's nice to see you in here again! and congrats on the baby!! chris gives some excellent advice there...take the break anyway! put the baby down and set the 3 y/o in front of the tv and step outside. do some stretches or some deep breathing or listen to ....silence. ahhhh! we get this far into our quits and we start forgetting the little rewards. so plan some out. being a new mom (along with being an "old" mom) is stressful! you need to make some time for the person within you. now might also be a good time to reveiw all your reasons for quitting. go back and look in your glovebox here. review all the information you learned...especially the info about yourself. re-commit the quit. [color=Purple]~huggs~[/color] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/17/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 346 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 18,338 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2283.6 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 33 [B]Hrs:[/B] 16 [B]Mins:[/B] 51 [B]Seconds:[/B] 30
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