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18 years ago 0 1521 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Sunflower, It may be a good idea to write down a list of reasons you quit smoking. Keep this list close by, use it as a reminder when you are feeling down or frustrated. You have come so far now, do not let anyone make you feel bad about your decision to quit smoking. Take Care, Melanie _____________________ The SSC Support Team
18 years ago 0 85 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Sunflower, CONGRATULATIONS on your quit. There's a line (from an old Madonna song I think) that says, "You only hurt the one's you love." It sucks when our loved ones can't be there for us, when we need and want them most... but your friend may feel that she's losing a connection with you... as she deals with her own hatred of her habit. All bets say, she'll be asking for your advice before you know it. Good work on the quit and the walking with your husband. I've found that spending more time with my non-smoking partner of 13 years and walking has brought a new spark of conversation that had been missing the past few years while I was out in the garage with my butts. Peace, Jackey [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/22/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 106 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,137 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $443.08 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 14 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 38 [B]Seconds:[/B] 21
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18 years ago 0 1155 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Sunflower, Your friend sounds envious; and this envy is coming out in her unsupportive words. I have to admit, I can understand her envy/jealousy - I feel that way about you too. I envy the 39 days ahead of me you are in your quit, and I envy the 5 days you've added to your life when I've only added 10 hours. But, rather than experiencing this as anger at you & lack of support (as your friend did); I feel impressed by you, encouraged by your success, and hopeful that I can be like you! You are inspirational to me. I'm glad you held on to your quit and didn't give in to the ugly cigarette beast! I'm sure you never want to be back where I am on Day 5!!! Keep up the good work. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 4/2/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 5 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 139 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $32.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 10 [B]Mins:[/B] 45 [B]Seconds:[/B] 1
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18 years ago 0 2257 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Sunflower, Your friend should have been dancing a jig for you. Friends are proud and NEVER judge, only encourage. This person is jealous and will get over it. They will probably come back with an apology soon. But even if it doesn't happen that way - don't let it take away from what you have accomplished. It's as big as life, you're saving your own life. AWESOME. My advice -- there are a TON of nice non smoking people in California, go get a couple of new friends who will be delighted that you have made the decision to quit and support you all the way. Keep on keepin on CobenFan (Christine M) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/25/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 13 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 231 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $45.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 1 [B]Hrs:[/B] 6 [B]Mins:[/B] 13 [B]Seconds:[/B] 35
18 years ago 0 2436 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Sunflower - There may be a myriad of reasons your friend had the reaction she did. And as cybrduke said - her fears and her reactions (and any of her feelings) belong to her. What she is feeling, or how she is reacting is HER process... You hold your Quit close and tight, Sunflower. Protect it w/everything you have. One step at a time. The junkie saw a crack in the wall of your Strong Quit and he snuck in. It's just the junkie talking. OK - so let's spackle that hairline crack and that takes care of that! :) Your friend is on her journey ~ and you are on your Quit journey. Friends work through 'stuff' and challenges. This is a wonderful opportunity for your friend to see (or not) that Quitting is possible. I know that my best friend (who is 10 years older than I am) was one of my most significant excuses for smoking. SHE was OK -nothing had happened to her, SHE is breathing and living OK, and so it goes. I imagine that if she had Quit and I was left a smoker, I would have been upset, would have felt left behind, I would have felt alot... One thing I know for sure in this life is that we don't really know what anyone else is really thinking... You may have been one of her excuses to smoke, dear one. Allow her, her process, and let her know you love her - sounds like she needs to be reminded of that. Hang tight, and focus on your powerful and amazing Quit. Blessings, Love and Light- Healer xox ;) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 3/5/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 34 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,212 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $81.6 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 4 [B]Hrs:[/B] 11 [B]Mins:[/B] 49 [B]Seconds:[/B] 35
18 years ago 0 425 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Thank you all for your nice and thoughtful posts. You people are wonderful and I am so glad that I found you. Her words did start junkie-thinking and I have had a pretty bad weekend, but it's getting better again. I know that there is no good about smoking and I know how proud and happy my husband is. I like "my new me" and I enjoy so much to walk and talk with my husband after a day of work. It has become our special time together and I can't really se us doing that - me with with a cigarette in hand :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/22/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 46 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 704 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $207 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 5 [B]Hrs:[/B] 11 [B]Mins:[/B] 38 [B]Seconds:[/B] 43
18 years ago 0 425 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I talked with my best friend yesterday we have been best friends for about 35 years, she lives in Europe and I in California) Together we have tried to stop smoking a lot of times, but always end up laughing and lit up a cigarette. So - last night I told her that I have stopped smoking and she got so very unfriendly when she realized that this time I am going to make it. She asked "so how many days have you quit this time? - I told her - 43 days.... Her voice changed and she said "how much weight have you gained?" I told her - "I have lost weight, because I walk together with my husband for 1 hour every day". It helps him to loose weight and my mind is busy without any thoughts of cigarettes. Then she said - "you have a very easy quit, don't you?" and her voice were angry. I told her - No, I have had a very tough time, my nose is bleeding...It has been a hell. She kind of laughed about it and said: why stop smoking when it causes so much pain? When I put down the phone, I got really depressed. I started to think like "Why did I stopped smoking?" What is the benefits? Am I more happy? All this thoughts and I almost went to the shop to buy cigarettes. I didn't, but please give me some positive thinking!!! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/22/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 44 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 668 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $198 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 5 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 49 [B]Seconds:[/B] 7
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Sunflower, I want to congratulate you on your now 45 day quit that is BIG. I'm going to believe that you have planted a seed in your friends mind that will continue to grow. She will probably think that if you can do this she can too. This is your quit and you hold on to it like it is all the GOLD in Ft Knox. Because it is worth more than the GOLD its your life. So try not to let that bother you, Old Nicodemon likes to confuse your mind and loves it when you worry. Boot him out where the sun don't shine. Hold tight and tuff!!!! SUNSHINE [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/7/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 91 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,563 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $318.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 13 [B]Hrs:[/B] 5 [B]Mins:[/B] 34 [B]Seconds:[/B] 52
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18 years ago 0 2614 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Sunflower You have some really nasty junkie second guessing you like that. AND Look you have lost weight, you are tending your body by walking, you are getting a connection with you husband, you are building your relationship, you get to think about the really lovely things that life has to offer as you walk with yur husband. Am I repeating myself yet. You are deepening your relationship with the guy you travel with. Hooray for you. We always get to choose the positve side, (if we really want). I hope that you have a lovely weekend and that you are somewhere where the sun is shining and you are basking in the warmth and glory of all the beauty and light of the world have to offer. Good for you for posting here, working out those nasty junkie secondguessing thoughts and keeping your word and staying strong and staying quit. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/17/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 49 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 992 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $367.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 8 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 1 [B]Seconds:[/B] 15
18 years ago 0 214 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Sunflower, The in a weird way the positivity is in your friends reaction. She is jealous that you were able to quit, because deep down everyone wishes they did not smoke, even though we did enjoy it some of the time. She was not supportive of you because you are doing something she wishes she were able to do. You never know, you might just inspire her to quit. You are doing great and no one can take that away from you. You may just have inspired me to start walking! Iwin [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/11/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 87 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,759 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $348 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 9 [B]Hrs:[/B] 21 [B]Mins:[/B] 29 [B]Seconds:[/B] 41

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