Janet,
Your feelings of betrayal can be quite painful. You know that smoking is an addiction. We all know it's an addiction. So why do addicts lie when they are otherwise fine people? Fear. Guilt. Denial. All of the above. Their addictions control them. They will do anything to justify another "fix". Including lying.
I realize your trust in him is zero right now, and believe me I'm not condoning his actions, but like the others have said, try to separate the quit from the marriage.. from the man. There are several on here whose spouses still smoke. What you need to do is to protect your quit and ensure that he never smokes around you or inside your house. Being ticked at him, getting into arguments over quitting will not make him quit. The best you can do at this point is to establish clear guidelines in terms of what areas are off limits. That would include your house, car, dining out in smoke free areas, etc.
You are making a new life for yourself, one your son is probably very proud of. Continue to be that shining example of Strength, Determination, Commitment and A Positive Attitude. Be bigger than your husband. He may one day come around. Then again, make sure his life insurance is paid up.
Best wishes.
[b][color=Green]Be Strong. Be Smart. Be Quit.[/color]
[color=black]Joe[/color]
[size=3][color=Blue]Knowledge Replaces Fear[/color][/size]
[size=2][color=black]Illegitimus non carborundum est[/color][/size][/b]
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 5/15/2005
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 263
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 6,586
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $644.35
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 46 [B]Hrs:[/B] 2 [B]Mins:[/B] 32 [B]Seconds:[/B] 6
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$36,971.20
Amount Saved
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Days: 10011
Hours: 14
Minutes: 55
Seconds: 45
Life Gained
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46214
Smoke Free Days
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369,712
Cigarettes Not Smoked
