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Almost at 6 months and having depression and junkie thoughts !!! HELP


18 years ago 0 1521 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
CJ, Hang tight. LOOK at your smoke-free days! You are at 163 my friend! STAND TALL AND BE PROUD!!!! Try not to let the 10+ pounds get you down. If what you are doing now to lose weight isn't working try something else. Watch your calorie intake, stay away from sugars/junk food and eat a lot of fruits and veggies. Stay strong my friend, Melanie ______________________ The SSC Support Team
18 years ago 0 1687 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
CJ, Oh my, look at all the great advice you have received. Just go back and re-read those posts and let them sink into every cell in your body. I know about depression but not due to my quit. If you continue to go through depression please get some help. I did!!! Blessing sent your way, SUNSHING [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/7/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 103 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,764 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $360.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 14 [B]Hrs:[/B] 22 [B]Mins:[/B] 22 [B]Seconds:[/B] 4
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18 years ago 0 893 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi CJ and sorry to hear of the doubts but I do know how you feel, I am nowhere near your stats but have had a really bad 3 days and I can't really understand why I am having them. What has helped me through (and still is helping) is to remind myself of all the yucky things I suffered as a smoker. Yunno, wheezing, coughing, mucus, out of breath etc. etc. and then ask myself what I prefer, a few days of craves (and me overweight now too) or all of that - it's a no brainer when you really think about it! I think that part of the problem is that we forget about how crap smoking actually is and only remember the 'good' things. You have got such a monumental quit going that you have to do whatever you need to do to get over this. Like you say, keep coming here and you will get all the support you need. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/6/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 73 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 884 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �182.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 13 [B]Hrs:[/B] 10 [B]Mins:[/B] 46 [B]Seconds:[/B] 39
18 years ago 0 663 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I'm in this club, too, unfortunately. I think I'm drawn to feeling sorry for myself. For the loss. I feel like a child. Why me? Why can't I just have everything I want without working for it? And why can't I have it right now? I have trouble letting go and that may be the biggest lesson of my quit. What I have found to be helpful are all the same coping mechanisms I've been using. Breathing - sometimes I forget about how important it is. Not to sound too esoteric, but it's the breath of life we are saving and it returns the favor. If I concentrate on my breathing when those negative thoughts seem to enter, I can focus on the now as opposed to the past and future (which incidentally is the source of my negative attention/worry) and much like letting a crave pass, I move on from the worry/misdirected attention. I try to replace the draining thought with a thought of who I want to be... smokefree, happy, in love, fulfilled, of purpose, faithfilled, etc. Admittedly, I don't always win this internal battle, but I know smoking isn't going to help any - it never did. I know I will make it to the other side of all of this. life or death, live or die. there is only do, there is no try. choice puts the free in freedom. no hurries no worries. keep on keepin' on. fish [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/21/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 120 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,625 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $600 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 15 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 1 [B]Seconds:[/B] 3
18 years ago 0 85 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I cannot thank everyone enough for your WONDERFUL response to my cry for help. I know for a fact that is not for all of you (my friends) that I would not be at almost 6 months. I am going to plan my reward ( a big one) and deal with this depression head on. I know smoking one of those nasty things is not going to help me and I refuse to think it will anymore. My weight issue I will just have to deal with when I get past this and as everyone said the weight I know I can get off when the time is right. Thanks again for everything. I am a better person just for being blessed with all of you. CJ [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 11/8/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 164 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,289 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $459.2 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 16 [B]Hrs:[/B] 22 [B]Mins:[/B] 1 [B]Seconds:[/B] 40
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18 years ago 0 85 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Thank you all so much. I am feeling sooo down and your words as always make me feel a lot better. I am going to start planning something great for my 6 month reward and maybe that will get my mind off everything. The hard thing is I have never in my life been a depressed person and it is really getting to me that I feel this way. My husband is worried and the cat is even acting silly ( haha). I will keep coming in here as I did in the beginning and I will get through this as I did through hell, heck and all the other weeks. I could not have made it this far without you all. Thanks again from my heart. CJ [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 11/8/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 163 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,272 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $456.4 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 16 [B]Hrs:[/B] 19 [B]Mins:[/B] 52 [B]Seconds:[/B] 57
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18 years ago 0 85 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Well here I sit at I think 163 days as a "free" woman and in the last couple of weeks I have become very depressed. I suddenly miss smoking, I am depressed about the 10++ pounds I have gained that no matter what I cannot lose. I have exercised, deprived myself of the foods I love and still no weight loss. I am very discouraged. I went to my doctor last week and she told me I just needed to be "patient" I wanted to stick that stethescope somewhere where she would not find it for awhile. That is what has become of me in just the last couple of weeks. I have heard some of you say that you have had this happen at the 6 month mark and just need some input and help. I cannot go to my two friends because if you remember, they have both started smoking again which is another thing I struggle with every time I am around them. No one but ya'll understand this so PLEASE HELP ME. I know I am rambling but let me just add that up until now I really have not had a real bad quit and that is why all of this happening all of a sudden is such a shock. I have always appreciated everyone on this sight and all I could think about this morning is how I needed to get on here and ask for help. I have not been posting much lately because I have been so busy but I have missed you !!! Thanks in advance for your words of wisdom !!! CJ [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 11/8/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 163 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,266 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $456.4 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 16 [B]Hrs:[/B] 19 [B]Mins:[/B] 11 [B]Seconds:[/B] 39
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18 years ago 0 5195 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
CJ my friend! You are going to be just fine. Don't let that junkie thinking get the best of you. The depression can be overwhelming, as I'm sure you have seen from my posts. But the one thing you and I both know is that it passes. The six month milestone is huge. By far it was my favorite and I think only the one year will top it. When I reached this point and started getting depressed, I actually sat down and wrote out everything that had changed over the last six months. I found out that I wasn't even the same person anymore. Even more amazing than that was that I actually liked the new me better. I remember when your friends went back to smoking but stop and think about this for 2 seconds. Would you really want to be where they are now? You are free, they are still slaves to the addiction. You deal with your emotions, they hide. You can breathe, they are killing themselves. You live in reality, they are in denial. One of the hardest things for me to deal with in this quit has been the depression. When we smoked, we didn't deal with life on life's terms. We hid. Now we are having to learn how to live without the crutch and it is hard. There are times it seems impossible but we are stronger than that CJ and we know that we can make it through if we just hang on and keep putting one foot in front of the other. Keep taking those deep breaths, drink some water and do something nice to reward yourself. You have come a long way and deserve a great reward. Six months is so awesome. See you at the 6-12 club in a couple of weeks! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 293 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,867 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1025.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 25 [B]Hrs:[/B] 20 [B]Mins:[/B] 26 [B]Seconds:[/B] 49
18 years ago 0 5195 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Lizzie... Thank you so much for your reply to this thread. I have often dealt with the depression out of the blue that doesn't seem to come from anywhere. I am glad to see that you too had problems with this for months. I don't hear many being farther in their quits that talk about this. It is always nice to know we are not alone. I have been working a lot on trying to stay possitive and fight the depression when it happens. I am learning how to do this and it has been a painful experience but I feel the growth and it is getting better. For me, this has been part of the quit process and part of developing the new me. Hang in there CJ. It gets better. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 293 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,876 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1025.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 25 [B]Hrs:[/B] 21 [B]Mins:[/B] 23 [B]Seconds:[/B] 39
18 years ago 0 2830 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
CJ, I completely understand where you are coming from. I have my own theory on this and it's that most major milestones bring with it some depression because for years and years and years, we convinced ourselves that a smoke was a reward for anything we did. Clean the house... smoke. Finish studying... smoke. Make dinner... smoke. So now that we have done something great and are facing a huge milestone (6 months of freedom) our minds are thinking that we need a reward... and that normal reward is a cigarette. So now, we have to reward ourselves for this awesome achievement by doing something else that we enjoy. It sounds to me like you need a reward... what rewards do you have in mind for your 6 month anny? Have you thought of any? I'm practically giddy thinking about what I will do in a week, I can hardly stand it!!! I feel like a kid again!!! So go shopping, get a massage, or a manicure or pedicure... something that you will enjoy. This is a HUGE milestone and you deserve something great! So, start planning your reward... and if that doesn't cheer you up... go ahead and get yourself something a little bit early! :) You're worth it! Crave the Quit! Pam [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/28/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 174 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,360 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $718.62 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 12 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 52 [B]Seconds:[/B] 10

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