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End of a 2 year quit


18 years ago 0 254 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I have an uncle who quit 3 times (that i'm aware of) but it was the length of time he had been quit that actually stuck with me. For one of his quits, he had gone 6 YEARS and then started again. Of course, this was a big junkie thought for me in my early stages of thinking about quitting. [i]"If Uncle Paul STILL had thoughts/craves of smoking after 6 YEARS, I'll never be strong enough to do this. puff, puff, puff........" [/i] I never asked him why he started again after a 6 year quit, this was a long time ago and he has been quit again for almost 20 years.....but at the time he told me, it obviously registered in my addict's brain! Your friend will realize that whatever "caused" her to start again hasn't been solved, or gotten any easier to handle by smoking. My advice? (for what it's worth) is to stay quiet, don't judge, be there when she needs you (obviously she is going thru some sort of crisis, perhaps it's depth is unknown to you now) and when she decides it's time to quit again, be there for her without any "just think, if you hadn't started back" kind of talk. But you need to stay strong and not let your own junkie thoughts creep up now......don't question your quit. Good luck! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 12/19/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 49 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 741 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $330.75 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 4 [B]Hrs:[/B] 11 [B]Mins:[/B] 2 [B]Seconds:[/B] 13
18 years ago 0 1079 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi CJ. I am sad for your friends. They must feel quite ashamed and upset with themseves for starting again. Unfortunately, those feelings may cause someone to keep smoking and give up trying to quit again. It is hard for us to see how people can give up such long quits. We can only keep our quit safe. Congrats to you on your 3 month quit. 3 MONTHS! That's wonderful. Keep Strong. [color=Red]redrosie[/color] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/1/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 36 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 872 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $298.8 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 12 [B]Mins:[/B] 58 [B]Seconds:[/B] 25
18 years ago 0 85 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I just needed to post as I am feeling very bad about a friend of mine. I found out over the weekend that she started back smoking after a 2 year quit. I was so shocked I did not know what to say. I tried hard not to be critical but at this point in my quit, it was not easy. She went back due to a stress trigger that came on Christmas day and just now chose to tell me and another friend. I realize stress is a great trigger but it was due to a fight with her husband and ( I know I am being critical), that just does not seem like enough of a trigger to start back after a 2 year quit( they fight all the time anyway). Our other friend who has been quit for about 4 months, mentioned at that time that she was seriously thinking she may go back to smoking and now I am sitting here thinking how can this be !!! I am 45 years old and both of these friends are in their 50's and I just dont get it !! You go through hell week and heck week and you FINALLY get to a point where it is easier and you go back !!! I am at 90 days today and SOOOO proud and cannot even think that I would go back at this point. I know I am ranting sorry. Maybe just need to hear from ya'll as I am very frustrated and still in disbelief . CJ [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 11/8/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 90 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,807 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $252 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 9 [B]Hrs:[/B] 7 [B]Mins:[/B] 1 [B]Seconds:[/B] 3
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18 years ago 0 5195 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
CJ...it's really sad that your friends are giving up their freedom. They are choosing to be slaves again. Personally, I value my freedom too much to give it up. There are times I think about smoking but then I come to my senses. We always have to be on guard of our quits. We are addicts and will be for the rest of our lives. It's still a choice whether it has been 5 minutes, 5 days or 5 years. Each and every day we must wake up and choose not to smoke. I know that if I ever take one puff, that is it for me. I will be a smoker again forever more. Every day I count my blessings that I am quit. Never forget where you come from or you may just wind up back there to start all over again. Don't give up your freedom for anyone! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 220 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,407 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $770 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 19 [B]Hrs:[/B] 10 [B]Mins:[/B] 4 [B]Seconds:[/B] 42
18 years ago 0 2830 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
CJ, I feel so badly for your friend. But as addicts, we will always be addicted... time won't change that. All that will change is that either we are addicts still slaves to our addictions or we are addicts who have chosen to not live in slavery anymore. Sometimes after that long of a time, people forget what it was like and how much they hated their addiction... and they start again and remember pretty quickly why they quit to begin with! Just use this as a lesson for you so you don't have to make the same mistake. Just because your friend went back to smoking doesn't mean that she was craving all the time... she chose to be a slave again and will most likely try to quit again and will wish she'd never started again. Congratulations on your 3 month quit! Crave the Quit! Butterfly [IMG]http://i27.photobucket.com/albums/c177/kissnflirt/littlebutterflies.gif[/IMG] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/28/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 101 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 2,534 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $333.3 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 7 [B]Hrs:[/B] 8 [B]Mins:[/B] 35 [B]Seconds:[/B] 1
18 years ago 0 343 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
CJ, Congratulations on your 3month quit. Look, no matter what goes on around us all, we must keep focused. We have no control over that. But we do have control within ourselfs. You do have what it takes to come through this, and feel all the more better for it. Just a bump in the road for you my friend. Don't dwell on it anylonger. Come on now, go post those 90days in the stats parade and move on to a better place in your mind. Junkie talk, through it away. You are a winner here. Really nice stats...see ya around :) UFO [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 370 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 11,110 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2220 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 41 [B]Hrs:[/B] 15 [B]Mins:[/B] 11 [B]Seconds:[/B] 52
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18 years ago 0 12049 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
CJ, Then don't do it! Protect your quit and let your friends do what they need or want to. It is sad after all that time to start up again and you need to know, this is not the case with everyone :) Keep your coping mechanisms in tact and know that there might be pressure and temptation. I want to see you at the beach and I know you are looking forward to it! Keep Strong, Josie _____________________ The SSC Support Team.

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