Welcome to the group. I have been a member since last fall. I noted your words of 'allow myself the life I deserve." You are right, we deserve to be respected and loved. Self-doubt tends to make me forget that I am worthy of being respected and loved. Being appreciated and loved by those around you can go a long way towards living a fulfilling life. Maybe that is the best thing for a fulfilling life, sure beats a bigger car or rings on your fingers.