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Wow Pete... so much going on in your life all at once.  Matthew is wise to counsel scheduling time to recharge!  Have you figured out what, how and when to do that? Just having work done on your house can be unhinging.  It's such an invasion to have people and noise and disruption in your home.  Add your work and family responsibilities... well... definitely very challenging.  How are you managing?
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Hi Pete,
Wow, it seems as though you need a full time assistant. Fortunately, without one there you still have the ability to address all the issues facing you at the moment. You can take sometime to prioritize though remember to take sometime for yourself. Use as much support as you can get and don't be afraid to ask for assistance where you can. You need to recharge and in doing so, will be able to address the many tasks/situations facing you on a day to day bases and help keep your levels of stress at a manageable level. Taking the time for you and you only will help with your stresses as well.
Take a look back at the program if you are looking for relaxation/stress reducing tips. I know it is likely that you have ones that work best for you already and know which strategies help you most.
 
You are working so hard for so many people right now remember to take some time out to be proud of that and reward yourself (especially with some "me" time).
 
Take care
 

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Hi Vincenza
 
Thanks for asking about my weekend. It was mixed. Saturday was okay - I went to a wrestling show with my son. It was entertaining and a good escape for a handful of hours.
 
Sunday - well, I awoke with a splitting headache and feeling sick. I often do on Sundays. That's nothing to do with drinking on Saturday night as you may surmise - I don't drink. It seems that on Sundays my system needs to reboot, work out all the strain of the preceding week. Gradually as Sunday went on I revived slightly, but was unable to eat all day. But, as always, what is supposed to be a quiet and relaxing day turned into a trial. I should be used to it by now.
 
You ask what challenges I face at the moment. I'll try and be brief, because we all have these kind of things, just some of us cope and some of us struggle. I don't imagine I'm uniquely burdened at all.
 
First, my 91 year-old mother. Half-blind, more than half-deaf and unsteady on her feet. Widowed and lives on her own half a mile from me. A proud woman, she has only just admitted to needing help with daily life. She insists on going out every day and has had several misadventures of late - being robbed, falling and ending up in hospital (and discharging herself), getting lost and brought home by the police. I work full time and cannot give her the daily care she needs - I am trying to set up a care package but that involves talking to so many people that the process is freaking me out, even though I know I have to do it for her.
 
Second, my work. Been subject to restructuring and all the stress that comes with that process. Very busy as well, but with roles undefined and much uncertainty. Combine that with a corporate culture that expects us to be smiley and excited and positive all the time - virtually thought control going on, where any dissenting or alternative opinion is treated as near-heresy and suppressed - and we have a recipe for great stress. I'm not bad at my job, but I feel so insecure and inadequate at work at the moment.
 
Third, our house. Some very expensive, necessary and disruptive work coming up. Just picking our builder at the moment, being visited and getting estimates. I have a week's leave next month, but that's when the house will be full of chaos and mess.
 
I just feel like there's no shelter anywhere. And, unfortunately, when I get stressed like this the depression tends to kick back in. I'd been better for a few months but the way I react to stress raises all kinds of questions about myself, which quickly turns to self-loathing and  ... well, we end up in the same spiral again.
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Hi ~m and Pete, 

How was your weekend?  What challenges have you been struggling with recently?  How can we help? 
Vincenza, Health Educator
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The last thing I need to be doing right now is setting myself challenges - life itself is doing a thorough job of that without my help......
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I can't meet this challenge so am scaling back even more  Just hoping to be able to log on here over the weekend.  Even that is still progress... of sorts.
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Hi Ashley... I like this challenge and think it is probably a good place to start back on the dbt stuff (that's the clinical term... stuff
 
 I'll start small and challenge myself to talk to someone besides my husband or dogs or cats.  A real person in real time.  So sad how very frightening that feels right now. It's a start.  Thanks for the challenge... feels good to be challenged again.  I'm  glad you are still here.  
 
Just wondering if anyone else has set a challenge for the coming weekend?
 
 
 
 
 
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How did you challenge yourself this weekend? What did you learn
Can't think of anything? That's ok - how can you challenge yourself next weekend?

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