Ok, take a deep breath... it's ok. No one on earth is living in total alignment of their values, no one is perfect so do not aim for perfection; aim for progress.
It sounds like this perfectionism may be tying you up in a knot! I noticed you used that word a few times. Please remember looking at your values is a side element that can help you lead a fulfilling life and plan pleasant activities but the main program is what is used to treat depression. If you feel looking at values is not helpful to you right now then don't think about it right now. It's as simple as that.
The good news is you are making and have made progress; you are starting to understand what you value. Some people go through their whole lives never knowing this. You are ahead of the game already! Also, try not to think of it as "work" if your thinking that it's work then it's not important right now. Thinking about values should feel exciting and resonant. If not then don't worry about it now.
You and your husband are different. Fantastic! Not a problem. Two people who have different values can complement each other. It takes a bit of planning to figure out how you can complement each other but it can certainly happen. Having two people exactly alike can actually be problematic as they may be fighting for a specific role.
So remember it's not about "fixing" it it is not a black and white issue. Fufillment is on a spectrum, just thinking about it and being aware move you higher along the spectrum. So this is a good thing!
Your compass spinneth out of control LOL (I love how you can be funny in your despair - it's a real skill)!
What are some thoughts coming up for you now?
Glad you posted ~m - we'll figure it out together.
Ashley, Health Educator
