Hi Vincenza. I'm doing well. Thank you for asking & checking in... it's nice to hear from you :o).
Working on core beliefs, I think I have a basic core belief that is similar to Pete's, or sort of on the same theme... possibly. It has been a struggle to bring it down to one or two sentences. Mine goes something like this:
I will never excel at anything, nor should I ever want or try to excel or "be successful" ... because I am always and only a "support staff" person.
My whole purpose is to make everyone else's life easier.
This belief has meant that I must always be on the alert in order to anticipate and react to other people's needs, wants, and plans. That's pretty exhausting... especially when I've not done a very good job of it. God forbid that I would EVER be selfish enough to put any energies toward myself.
The only time I allow myself to address my own needs is when I am in crisis... only when I can longer function... only when I fall exhausted into the abyss of depression and/or addiction will I turn my attention toward myself.
Should I dare take time for myself when I am not in crisis, I will be punished. I will pay a price. If it isn't automatically forthcoming, I will feel compelled to carry out that edict myself.
That is just so.... dumb/pathetic/sad/stupid/pointless/wasteful/crazy!
Well, at least I got the basic belief down to a few paragraphs after pages and pages and pages of writing. And have kind of figured out that I really don't want to function that way anymore. Not that I won't continue to give to and support others... but I want to do it from out of a more positive, balanced place...
tis all i got fur now.