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Topic: Rebuilding Your Self-Esteem (more!)


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My life is mediocre. I have no special features. There's no one single thing that will make me stand out from a thousand other people. I use to flog myself about not even having one special talent or SOMETHING that would set me apart. I still do sometimes.
 
I need to realise that no one else has my particular combination of skills and talents, experiences, likes, dislikes. We have a good experience and it shapes us uniquely. We have a bad experience and it shapes us again. Sometimes the shape feels wrong, lopsided, ugly, unwanted. But it is uniquely mine.
 
I always tell hubby that it is so much easier to like someone you know something about. You understand where they're coming from and the more you get to know them, the more their actions or words make sense. The same hold true for us that are not only trying to love ourselves, but for some to just like or even tolerate ourselves. It's impossible to love a stranger intimately. 
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Members,

Has an illness, addiction or other left your self-esteem in the gutter? In the weeks to come, we will be exploring various strategies to help rebuild your self-esteem:

·         Do not dismiss praise or recognition from outside sources. Say thank you. (This gets easier with practice J )

·         On the flipside, DO NOT accept put downs from others. This is a non-negotiable. Constructive criticism is now the accepted norm for you!

·         Accept that not everyone will like you. It’s a fact of life. Some people just aren’t meant to be friends or lovers. Find people you do bond with and build relationships with them.

·         Stop comparing yourself to others. You are unique. You are special in your own way and you have your own strengths. Change the focus back to you every time you feel yourself falling back into that old habit of comparison.

Please add your thoughts on rebuilding your self-esteem!
 
 

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