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Specific Problems in Communication II


14 years ago 0 653 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
~m,
 
Is that your way of saying "yes, but..." ?
 
We ALL have needs that require communication of some sort. Also, it's helpful to understand different types of communication so that we can recognize them in others. That helps communication become less likely to be problematic.
 
Thoughts?
 
Tiana, Health Educator
14 years ago 0 1022 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Tiana... Indeed your post describes a problematic communication style... however, I personally have no needs which require communicating.   
15 years ago 0 653 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
  Denying Your Needs

 

 

People who communicate with a very passive style often deny their own feelings and needs. They feel sad, angry, or hurt but they deny their feelings and needs, even when asked directly. As a result, they get frustrated and angry because they feel unheard and disrespected. Other people get frustrated and angry because they have to guess what the passive person is feeling and needing. The answer to this problem is to adopt a more assertive communication style.

 

 

 

'Yes, Butting'

 

 

People who communicate in a passive or passive-aggressive way can do a lot of “yes butting.” In response to any suggestion from the other person for how to solve a problem or make a decision they say “yes, but…” Usually people who “yes but” don’t come up with any solutions of their own, they just reject all of the solutions of the other person. If you’ve ever been in a relationship with someone who is a “yes, butter” you know how frustrating it can be. No matter what you try to suggest, it isn’t quite good enough. So, what happens? That’s right, eventually you respond to the constant rejection by giving up and withdrawing. The solution to “yes, butting” is to recognize the symptoms, inhibit the impulse to criticize, assert what you really need and want, and be prepared to compromise.
 

 

 

 


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