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Celebrating our Mistakes


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Hey Sally! Great thread and great sharing! Thank you! I don't have a precise story in minf right now, but I intend to come back and post here lol! I love the idea of this thread!
13 years ago 0 121 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Well, thanks to my "mistake," I am now the owner of a tall, 4 drawer filing cabinet to help me get all my papers organized (thank you nice man from Craiglist!). I have been meaning to do this for over a year, but the depression had me locked into immobility. I think my new meds plus working through the session here have helped me get out of being "stuck." I know I would not have been able to respond to the advertisment and drive 45 min. to get it before. Now I just need to start filling it.
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Great thread Sally!
 


Ashley, Health Educator
13 years ago 0 121 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
I will start:
 
Just a few days ago, I decided to tackle some paperwork that I had been putting off. I had a job acceptance letter (a little job at the university) that I needed to return. I noticed (for the first time) that the letter had a due date on it, and the due date was for the following day! Since I live so far away from campus, mailing it might take 2 days, so, in a panic, I called the department and told them my predicament. I really wanted the job, but I didn't think they would get the acceptance letter in time. I was prepared to rearrange my whole schedule that day to drive down to the university and turn it in by hand. 
 
Thankfully, after speaking with someone there, they reassured me that  I could give my acceptance over the phone, and if I got the letter postmarked by the due date, I would be ok. Feeling much relieved, I ran to the post office and mailed it right away.
 
When I discovered the due date, I felt like a failure since I had the letter for over 2 weeks already. I had more than enough time to mail it back. I felt all hope was lost and started to experience anxiety and panic. But, I stayed calm and rational enough to call and ask for help. Just by asking, I was able to get an exception and everything turned out ok.
 
In the end, I have learned that I must read all paperwork more closely for things like due dates. If I had seen the due date, I would have put it on my calendar to take care of it in time. Because of this, I have also decided to purchase a large filing cabinet to help me get my piles of papers organized so they don't end up all mixed up together in a jumbled heap, leaving important, time-sensitive papers lost. And most importantly, I have learned to not be afraid to ask for help. The worst thing someone can say is "No, I can't help you." But often, they say something much better, so I have to be bold enough to ask. I would have never imagined that the school administration would have made an exception for me. It was a pleasant surprise.
 
Thankfully, this mistake of mine has a happy ending.  Not all mistakes do, but usually they have a lesson for us about behavior change so that we can avoid similar mistakes in the future.

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Many times, we beat ourselves up about our failures in life, our mistakes, when in actuality, we must make mistakes to learn and move forward.
 
This thread is a place for all of us to post what our most recent mistakes have been, how we handled them, and how the mistakes brought us closer to a goal or what we learned from the mistakes.
 
As the saying goes, "Good judgment comes from experience, and experience comes from bad judgment." So let's celebrate our failures and mistakes (our bad judgment) as a way towards experience and wisdom. 
 
This is a cross-post from another message thread I was participating in that relates to this idea:
"About failing or messing up, I think this is such an important issue, and one that is so hard to get over sometimes.  I plan to be an ESL teacher someday (English as a Second Language), and so often, ESL students will be frozen with fear of making a mistake that they will not participate in class (which means they are not learning). I have this idea of making a reward chart for "mistakes" in my class to encourage the students to make mistakes and participate. I want to keep track of each person's wrong answers (in a silly and fun way) and whoever gets the most will win some sort of prize at the end of the day. I am a strong believer that mistakes are an important step in learning a new language (and probably in learning or doing anything else). As a teacher, I want my students to make mistakes and make lots of them. Then we will work on those mistakes as a team."
 
Maybe we could somehow apply that idea to ourselves? Like each time we make a mistake, think..."Yay! I am on my way to learning or accomplishing something!" 
 
I find that when I am not making mistakes, I am not trying or doing anything. Inactivity and just staying in my comfort zone is a very safe, boring, depressing, mistake-free place to be.
 

 
 


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