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14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1044

tdgirl, sorry you are having such a difficult time. You said something that made me think abut how I used to think. I used to think my depression was one big pity party (self-pity). That is soooo not true.

You have alot of adjustment to make with your diet and exercise and medications and other health issues. This is added stress and as with the onset of depression, it seems we lose a little something of ourselves when we get diagnosed with something "new" to us.

Recently I had to make some lifestyle adjustments due to a "new" diagnosis. I'm still making those adjustments bit by bit. I can't do it all over night. low sodium, high potassium, walking everyday outside 30 minutes, quit smoking, new meds and their side effects, < 50 mg of caffeine a day (what is in one cup of coffee). Break it down bit by bit what you need to do to take care of you and pick a place to start. I started with the caffeine. I drink tea all day every day, so I started mixing decaf tea bags with regular tea bags, adding more decaf and less regular over time. I also started eating high potassium foods because the side effect of the medication is low potassium. lol, first I had to find out what high potassium foods were.

Take care of your health!! Keep us posted. We are here for you.

And I agree with Jason (lol, bet he's glad to hear that).

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 223

Hi tdgirl,

First off, please know that we are here to help and listen, and will never judge.

I think you deserve a lot of praise. It sounds like you have been working on your anxiety and have made great progress. Setbacks are expected here and there, and they represent great opportunities to learn and grow.

Can you take anything away for this last situation that may be helpful moving forward?

Although you may have been missing for a little while you are back now! Maintenance is a part of the program and sharing with us on the forums is a great way to stay engaged. Please keep on sharing.

It also sounds like your husband is there for support. Sometimes we tend to think we can read the minds of our loved ones and may believe that they are thinking negatively of us. Usually, our assumptions are inaccurate. Talk to your husband about how you feel and that you want to deal with the present situation as a team.

Please share with us how everything is progressing. We are here to help
Jason, Bilingual Health Educator

14 years ago 0 +0 / -0 5

I've been missing from this site. thought I was feeling better and boy was I wrong. I started going back to work again and failed miserably. I'm sitting at home crying uncontrollably because i'm terrified of what my mother is going to say. My husband is supportive and says he "understands" but I know he is just thinking of the money we are losing the more i'm home.

I feel like there are so many things that are on top of my right now. Money, being able to pay bills and rent on times. Not to mention our car needs to be fixed. Then there are all the medical problems i'm having, type 2 diabetes which is a new diagnosis, and I'm having more trouble than ever trying to change eating habits and I'm just finding it impossible. I also now have high blood pressure to throw into the mix. I'm overweight and miserable.

I feel like a self pitying fool and know others look at me llike that. But I can't stop it. I can't sotp these feelings or thoughts. I don't know what to do. People will only be paitient with me for so long. I'm scared of losing things and not making the right choices. I'm scared that I will get to the point where I will do something incredibly stupid. I dont' want to hurt myself but I think of it more than I should.

I guess that is all for now....off to do some more crying.

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