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Rebuilding Your Self-Esteem


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Ralph,
 
Challenging that negative inner voice will take practice, don't give up.  
 
The following 10 questions will help you to challenge any negative thought. When you have a negative thought, try to answer these 10 questions:

What’s the evidence that the thought is true?
What’s the evidence that the thought is not true?
What is the worst possible thing that could happen and how would you cope if it did happen?
What’s the best possible thing that could happen?
What would most likely happen and how would you cope if that happened?
What’s another way of thinking about this situation? What else could be going on?
What would you tell a friend of yours if they were in this situation and had the same negative thought?
What’s the effect of believing the negative thought?
What would happen if you didn’t believe the negative thought?
What are some alternative thoughts in this situation?

Members, please feel free to share your tips on keeping positive!
 
Karen, Health Educator
15 years ago 0 8 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
 I can see the point and try to do it, but when I am really in the throes of my depression, it doesn't seem help. what am I doing wrong?
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Very helpful, thanks.
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Members,

Has an illness, addiction or other left your self-esteem in the gutter? In the weeks to come, we will be exploring various strategies to help rebuild your self-esteem:
Challenging the Inner Voice
As mentioned, individuals with low self-esteem have a very critical inner voice. One of the best strategies to start rebuilding your self-esteem is to challenge that inner voice.
For unfairly harsh statements, be reassuring & praise yourself. (Ex: It might not have been perfect, but I worked hard & did a great job!)
For unrealistic statements, be realistic & learn from it. (Ex: Yes, I got a D on this test but my other grades in this or other classes were good. Next time, I will study more.)
For illogical statements, be logical. (Ex: Just because one of my friends is being quiet tonight, doesn’t mean she doesn’t like me. Maybe she is just having a bad day or is tired.)
For catastrophe statements, be objective. (Ex: Even though our relationship ended and I’m grieving a huge loss, I’m a great person and we just weren’t the right fit together.)
How did this strategy work for you? Were you successful in challenging your inner voice? Are you struggling and need more tips?
Sylvie, Bilingual Health Educator

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