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16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 82

Its only been a little while,but I snuck out of work just to stop in to see my daugter,I think your prayers have helped,she was awake sitting up and asking if she could eat, but the Dr. wont let her eat yet,not till they now whats going on with her liver. She 's not over this by along shot but a small improvment gives me hope.Maybe God is listning?

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 82

I just heard from my wife, my daughter is not doing to good ,she had a very bad night and thats the hardest part on us as we are not there at night,she dose have some good nureses though. Rose my wife is a type 1 diabetic and has many other health ishues ,and I know if she dosent rest she will start having problems also, but she is a very stuborn woman, And when it comes to our girls she puts them ahead of every thing! Its hard not seeing any improvments,but they say more tests need tobe done. Mom of 3 I know your praying for us I thank you thank you all for your prayers and thoughts.some times life realy sucks!!

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 823

Hi DJ, We are all thinking of you in this difficult time. Please take the great advice offered by Mom of 3 and Rose..........when one is exhausted the negative feelings and thoughts are amplified and we react poorly or in the worst ways. I do hope your wife can tell you why she is upset and I do hope you can both be understanding and patient and supportive towards each other. Your daughter needs you both at this time. Please keep us posted on how she is doing and if you need to vent, please post often. Faryal, Health Educator

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 142

hi dj - you are going through the kind of stress that can make or break a person - you and your wife have to be one unit - help each other, make sure you eat/sleep or you will crash. i've been there. hospitals. sick kids. dying grandparents. if your wife needs sedatives to help her cope, she should have them. take care of yourselves. i hope your little girl will be ok.

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3043

Hi DJ

Your wife needs a big hug and appreciation for spending her days at the hospital. She has to be frustrated by being there but not being able to fix your daughter. She likely sees you being able to go to work as an escape. I know it's not really, but she is stressed and isn't thinking clearly. Unfortunately, it's hard to see past personal pain at times like this, but it is what is needed most of all. Being around a holiday does not make it any easier. Here we have Family Leave that every employer of more than 50 employees must offer. It is unpaid, but there to help in these situations. Is there some way your employer could accomodate your situation better? I know some employers can be very understanding, others not so much. Sometimes co-workers will step up and cover if necessary. Just some suggestions, I know that income plays an important role also.

I believe in God and that prayer is powerful. (others may not and I do not mean to offend anyone) About 15 years ago my sister was a beautiful college student who contracted bacterial meningitis. They told us she would not live through the night. The hospital allowed us to stay in the chapel down the hall from ICU where my sister had been placed on a ventillator. My parents and I stayed the night, family and friends came and went during the visiting hours. We basically had one big prayer vigil. By the next morning she was still alive, then she slowly began to improve. It was a long process but today she is well and has two beautiful children. Anyone who didn't know her history would ever guess she was that close to death. She had a wonderful doctor, but even he said that it was God who healed my sister.

God is all knowing and has a reason for everything even if we can't see it. I believe that in my situation and believe it about yours. I certainly don't have all the answers, but knowing that God has power over what I can't control gives me hope and peace when I would otherwise have none. Hang in there DJ. Tell your wife she is wonderful and that you love her. She needs that right now.

Please keep us posted.

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 82

Thanks guys ,We have no idea at this time how long she will be in there,They seem to find more problems then ansers.And now me and the wife are starting to fight ,I don't know if its from the stress or what? She's upset I think because I'm not at the hospital enough,but she knows I have to work,and there is no covrage,I spend my evenings there,I went home a bit early last night because I was wipedout from working outside in the cold most of my 12 hr. shift, she wont tell me whats got her so mad at me and that makes me angry.I seem to make the fights wores then because I say dumb and mean things when Im angry.and I ended up having to sleep alone last night,The toung is such a small part of our body but can get you in so much trouble! If you guy want to do some thing for us ,a prare would be nice we could use the big guy help.Breanne your positive thoughts and energy are much appreceated, Also thank you mom of 3 and wildcat,I dont realy feel to thankful right now, although I know there is much tobe thankful for,I wish I could controle my mouth when Im angry or upset I seem to get a huge adrenalen rush when Im that way.Lisen to me going on me me me ,When I should be thinking about my daughter! Maybe I'll try and pray also its been awhile and I hope god will lisen to me I only seem to talk to him when I need his help,I feel like im using him! Thanks for lisning, talk to ya all later.

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1693

DJ,

So sorry to hear about your daughter. I will send all of my positive thoughts and energy her way. Do you and your wife have an idea of when she will be able to come home?

Please let us know if there is anything we can do for you. Please remember that we are always here for you

Breanne, Bilingual Health Educator

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3043

Hi DJ,

I am so sorry to hear about your daughter. Anytime our children suffer we suffer. I just wanted you to know that I care that you and your family are going through such a difficult time. I will pray for your daughter's health and for strength for you and your family. Please keep us posted on how she is doing. As Wildcat already said, we're here if you need an outlet.

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3043

Dj,

it is altogether understandable that you are in such a difficult situation!

stress from long work hours. a sick child. your illness that is recently under control.

come often to vent and cry with us. it will help.

This thanksgiving I will remember to think of you!

16 years ago 0 +0 / -0 82

I'm sad to say Im not doing so good, my teen age daughter is in the hospital very sick, they have her so doped up she has no idea whats going on.All she dose is sleep,when she is awake she is in so much pain! I have to work the Canadian long weekend,so my wife spends the day and evening by her side , I go there after my 12 hour shift and stay as late as possable,She's our baby so it hurt so much to see her like this.I cry when no one is around to see,I don't like being at work while this is going on,but there is no one to cover shifts.I'll be off work soon then i'll clean up and go sit with her,the Hurt is to much !My hart akes.

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