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15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 823

Hi Rose306, Glad to hear your EAP psychologist was helpful and insightful.........thanks for sharing. Writing down your flaws and also your great qualities helps to reinforce the idea of accepting yourself as you are. Focusing on your strengths helps you to learn to love yourself and feel good about who you are. Has anyone else written anything down? Faryal, Health Educator

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 142

hello again,

saw my free eap psychologist today - i gotta say she's really good! so much better that the one i went to years ago and this was the topic we talked about today! how to love yourself i.e. have good/high self esteem. you gotta kick that critic out of your head - maybe it was your mother, father, teacher, lover, friend whatever that told you that you weren't good enough or wanted enough or tolerated enough or whatever and replace it with someone (real or not) that loves you. i told her i had no idea how to do that, the wheels are always spinning and i can't have an imaginary conversation with myself in my own head! sounds weird. so she said write it down if that's what works for you and then get comfortable and say it out loud, like you mean it as many times a day as you can:
STARTING TODAY I FORGIVE MYSELF FOR ALL THE MISTAKES I'VE MADE BECAUSE I AM JUST A HUMAN BEING LIKE EVERYONE ELSE.
STARTING TODAY I WILL LOVE MYSELF AND TAKE CARE OF MY NEEDS - FROM MINUTE TO MINUTE AND HOUR TO HOUR AND DAY TO DAY
STARTING TODAY I WILL BE RESPONSIBLE FOR MY OWN THOUGHTS/ACTIONS AND NOT PROJECT THEM UNTO OTHERS- I WILL ASSUME NOTHING AND DETACH FROM THE OUTCOME (because i can't control it) .....good luck everybody!! i love when the mod's start conversations like this - keep it up.

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 12049

If you can make a list of the bad..then you can make a list of the good!

Try taking a break and start writing that list, I know that you are a great supporter!

Josie, Health Educator

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 3043

Thanks Breanne,

I needed the explaination as well as Rose. I can love everyone else, forgive them, look at their side of things, but fail to love myself. I have trouble accepting my "bad". (perfectionism) I can tell you every bad thing about me, every flaw, every sin. Things that I will overlook in someone else I will beat myself up for. I will tell myself that I am stupid or somehow insensitive if I fail.

I don't know how to come to terms with my "bad". I am performance based and have not been very successful at changing that. I am trying to, but have not made much progress. This keeps me from loving myself. Any suggestions on how to move on with this?

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1693

rose,

I think in order to love yourself you have to accept yourself as you are, and learn to love all of you, the good and the bad. Aim to do your personal best everyday. If you can do this, you will find that your body and behaviours will naturally improve, because you will want to do what is best for you. You will eat well, make the 'right' decision, forgive yourself, forgive others, and so on.

Members, what do you think?

Breanne, Bilingual Health Educator

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 142

hello,
how do you begin to do that? love yourself? do you work to improve your body and your behavior or do you accept yourself as you are? how do you forgive others that hurt you but don't think they have? how many times are you supposed to say - you're sorry? great topic...want to understand it more cuz i don't.

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 15

Oh my I LOVE that. Thank you!

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 538

Great post! Love it!

15 years ago 0 +0 / -0 1288

Members,
As you fall in love with yourself, you naturally get healthier. All the do’s and don’ts of health education can only build a house of straw unless love is the foundation. When you see love in operation in a relationship, you see trust, acceptance of the uniqueness of each person, understanding of differences, and forgiveness of failing. Sylvie, Bilingual Health Educator

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