Moody, I know how you feel when you say "I lost my identity", I feel the same way. But I think now is the time when we need to find that identity and nuture it. I know, trust me, I know how hard that can be, but I feel I got to the point where I did something I was very nervous to do before, but I did it now, and I feel so much better about me. It was not big whoop, but I applied for a volunteer position, I went in for an interview, got it and started the following Monday. But just that feeling of "I did it on my own", no one helped me. My spirits increased so much. We can do this!!!
I also avoid living, I think because I'm afraid of things not going my way, so why take that chance. My Mom said sometimes, we have to take that risk, big or small, and try it. But now I have gotten to the point where I'm tired of living so sad and scared and panicky that I don't think too much about things (yes, I'm a big thinker too) and I just do it.
Look in the mirror and tell yourself, you are a good person with good qualities, we are very sensitive people and that is a good thing if we direct it in the right direction.
P.S. Talk about rambling...sorry about that. Have a good day :)