Is it possible that negative self-talk can actually be a way of comforting yourself? I find sometimes that the "soundtrack" goes off in my head when I am trying to get over something stressful, and that it is actually comforting.
And if so, how do you manage that? When I need to deal with something difficult it can be one of the things that helps me cope. I know it's not a desirable way to operate, but I really am puzzled because some part of me is unwilling to part with these habits because of what they offer me. I don't find positive self-talk at all comforting, even though it feels more virtuous and well-adjusted. It just doesn't have any impact at a gut level, while the negative stuff feels like pulling the plug out of a full bathtub of stress and letting it drain out.
Your advice on this one would be appreciated, it's been on my mind for a while now.
Ava
