I agree with me about paying attention to ourselves. I am usually really good with giving others advice. That is what people tell me, it so easy to be objective about another's problem. If we could only take our own advice. I can also relate to your feelings about obtaining happiness through doing for others. That is one reason I feel so alone, it seems like if I'm not doing for, or behaving as another needs me to, then they really have no time for me. I used to tell one of my therapists what I really need was a friend like me. The appointment I have today is with a man, never been in therapy with a man. Wonder (don't be insulted Bob47) if I'll be able to relate to him. Although, the closest person ever in my life was my Dad, maybe I will be pleasantly surprised. I do you think you have hit the proverbial nail on the head, with being truly happy coming from within. If we can't be happy, and content within, then without suffers too!