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clarification I was reading the last posting and it sounds as if i broke up with a long time girlfriend while i was married...i broke up before i met my wife...does it matter, does anyone care? i care. i think if i tried to juggle two love relationships that would confuse me more. also it may bring my integrety into question. so colour me dull with the gray shade of monogamy.
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ladyblue i wish my wife would take care of things for me. life would be a lot less stressful. i have done some iteresting stuff in my life. looking for relationships with women, probably took up too much of my time. now i am so locked into my long term, long time relationship it seems inconcievable that i could ever change. also i broke up with a longtime girlfriend and was overwhelmed and totally caught off guard as to how bad i felt....and we even remained friends. years ago i travelled for months on end, all over the world. after that there's kind of a let down. now to some degree, i try different things from my home base. i acted a small part in a play. i do a lot of digital photography, getting a few published. i went to a bible study group and learned a few things about Christianity. i joined toastmasters and learned something about public speaking and actually a lot about thinking positively. also i run a business and thats always changing...the business is what really stresses me out, so i should get out of that i guess what i'm saying is that my relationship is not the overwhelming most important thing in my life. i should work on improving it. maybe i can learn something here.
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Hi Bob, You are certainly correct when you say that we get out of something what we put into it. I guess that's why I've hung in there so long with my treatment. I just grow weary of it sometimes. It's been such a long journey with no end in sight, no end of the rainbow as it were. My husband is a very good man but he is much happier to pretend that there is nothing wrong with me though I think in some strange way he actually likes it when I'm at my weakest. Maybe it makes him very needed, I don't know. He has certainly had to do alot of things that most husbands would not care to do and he rarely if ever complains. But there just seems to be something missing I guess, for me. Probably my fault. Most things are. But at any rate, after so many years I know I just have to ride this out, keep my appointments, keep myself occupied etc. etc. etc. Bye for now.
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ladyblue with regards to participation. a cliche states that one gets out what one puts in. by participating we take on the responsibility of making the site work. we achieve a dialogue. we make our lives more interesting. i look forward to reading new postings on here. part of the depression problem for me is that there is no one to talk to about my problem. my family doesn't want to hear about it...they just ignore me and change the topic.
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ladyblue thanks for responding to my posting. are there answers? one has to optimistic. i have been in the good zone at times. it sounds as if you have felt good at times also. yesterday i had a nice time walking with my dog, chatting with a couple of neighbours and taking a lot of digital photos. i've had a couple of pictures published in the local paper, so there's a bit of focus in the whole exercise. also i usually feel good when i attend a toastmaster meeting, once i got past my fear of public speaking...(still a bit of a challenge) The trick is to get myself there. at toastmasters you are also asked to evaluate other persons performances. the main thing is to find positive things to say about them and so they have to some degreee trained me to look for positive aspects in every phase of my life. i can easily stay occupied, but its the pressures of life, things i have to do that seem to depress me -- also bad moments in my relationship with my wife, when she starts yelling at me because i'm not meeting her expectations. i really have to work on the exercising, because i think that there's potential there. i hope to communicate with you some more. i think its very theraputic to explore our lives and feelings in this sort of forum.
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Hi Bob, I've noticed that you've been very active on this board. It does help to know that there are others out there. I have wanted to respond to some of your other posts but have been having a couple of rough days, actually about a week now, but I've learned through long experience that "this too shall pass". It's just hard when I'm going through it. You sound a bit like me, like you do a lot of thinking about life and the greater scheme of things. Do you think there's an answer out there? Or maybe a better question is, do you think we'll ever find it? Ah well, have a good day (or night, depending on where you are).
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Hi I looked forward to logging on to this site all day. Its nice actually have taken another step to deal with my problems of depression. This also motivates me to exercise and perform specific urgent tasks. thanks

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