I have done research into it, and I have known three people, who have been borderline, one was diagnosed and admitted it, and of the other two, one would never admit anything is wrong with her, and one knows she has problems, but she has never actually discussed that diagnosis. But all three fit the description in the book, "Don't Keep Walking On Eggshells", which was very helpful to both my husband and I in identifying and dealing with Borderline people. The main line you will hear from them is they do not want to be abandoned, which is exactly what usually happens to them, because of their personality disorder. I recently have occassion to be with one of them on a social level occassionally, and I am scared she will bring me down...I have been diagnosed with Major Depression and Anxiety with Panic and Eating Disorders.
While I can have deep relationships with Borderlines, I am afraid to get hurt. I don't mean to hurt anyone out there reading this, but it is hard for me to draw lines, and put my foot down on how much I will take from someone who is Borderline. It is a terrible disorder to have; however I also have to know how to protect myself in order not to become depressed by them. Any suggestions?