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Ever since I read your post, I am thinking about you. I am a single mom of twin-girls. What you are going through is really hard. People who were there for you all of a sudden left your life. It is normal to feel very sad and abandonded. It has no use to say: get over it". If it was that simple, I bet you would have already done it. It is not that simple, but you do have options. You can sit in a corner, let the bills go out of control, your household and eventually your whole life. Please do not go there, it is an awful dark place. Instead try to reclaim YOUR life!! Try, try and try very hard to take charge of what is going on. Start with sorting out the bills. Do you have a regular schedule? Is your house clean? I know, maybe all these things are the last on your mind. Maybe you are wondering why your house should be clean while going through such a difficult time, but it helps. I have been severely depressed for a long time. It is a long hard fight to overcome it. It really, really helps to stay on track with very simple and little things in life. Most important.....face your feelings. Do not let anybody tell you how you should feel. Just feel an emotions, face it, let it pass through you. If that means you have to be angry, be angry, use your angry energy to clean your house. Rave, vent, stamp your feet. It is all normal in the phase you are going through right now. You were hurt, you are angry. Than you feel sad and hopeless. Cry as if there was no tomorrow, do not hold back, let it out. Than when you are done....take a cold shower, look in the mirror, you are valid, you are supposed to be here........than make tea and start sorting through the bills. You can face life alone. YOU CAN!!!
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You have come to a good place. You are not alone. Raising three boys on your own is hard, no matter how you look at it. About your question. Is it really you? No!!!! In the way that there is nothing wrong with you, your feelings or emotions. Is it your problem?? Yes!! No matter what happened, as soon as something shows up at your doorstep, you are the one who has to clean it up. It would be nice if other people were considered and realized that they caused some of the mess laying on your front porch, that way they might help you clean it up. But, if they live their lives nice and dandy as if nothing is wrong, you will be the only one doing it. We are here to help, so do not feel overwhelmed with what is laying in front of you. It is not THAT bad, once you sort through the issues and take charge of what is yours and leave the other issues to the people they belong to. It is very nice of your ex-husband that he says that he still loves you, that you can still do family things together,eventhough he has another woman in his life. That is really great of him. The truth is, what he thinks does not matter in any way, start thinking in terms of how things affect you. You have the right to choose another option. It is okay to still love him too. That is your problem (if you want to call that). But it may mean for you that acting as if you are still a happy family for the kids sake is not so healthy. You have the right to make that choice. To tell your ex that you are just not ready and may never be. Try to stop the confusion in your head, it is going to wear you down, sooner or later. Your worries are with you and your children, not what anybody else is thinking. You seem to be a strong woman..........anybody reaching out for help is very courageous, believe me!!!!!!!!!! Keep posting your thoughts and feelings here. Do not go down depression lane just yet. Everything you are feeling is valid. Those are your feelings and you have the right to feel them.
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bcziwanna, Thank you for sharing your story with us today. We understand that you are in some need of some emotional support and you will find it here within The Depression Center. Feel free to try our Depression Test and then print it off and take it to your doctor. We feel that you do need to discuss your emotions with your physician as well. Combining our support group with medical advice should be a thought for you at this time. Please feel free to continue to post your questions and concerns with us and please let us know how things work out with your doctor. Looking forward to hearing from you again soon, Melanie _____________________________________ The Depression Center Support Team
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I am lost. I am a single mother of 3 boys, trying to not lose what is left of my mind. I feel like the world is out to be happy without me. My best friend of 2 years has begun dating another friend of mine, and now there is no time for me. I am angry, sad, just plain misserable at losing my friend to another. My ex says that he loves me and we can do the "family thing", but has a new girlfriend. I still love him. I have been so depressed, and angry i have put off the bills, now i am in over my head making things worse, and i feel like running...everyone that i have talked to says that it is me, and that i need to get over it...how do i do that?????? is there hope, or am i hopeless??????

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