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Thank you so much for the thoughtful and helpful email. I don't feel that low every day (thank God!) but sometimes the negative thoughts and depression just takes over my troubled mind. You are wise beyond your years. When I was 24 I was lonely and depressed but I never got any kind of counseling or medication for it at that age. Your advice about putting the focus on now and finding happiness in the present rather than the past is good advice. The only problem with mindfulness, keeping one's focus on the now, is that it's very hard to do all the time. Since my last email I have made some positive changes in my life: about a month ago I found a long-term office temp job doing legal research. The people I work with are nice and maybe I'll make some new friends there. Another thing that has helped me cope better with depression is that I have been going to a depression support group at my church twice a month. I have also been continuing my weekly psychotherapy and I occasionally see my psychiatrist. My meds haven't changed. For the past few days I've been feeling more depressed than usual though because St. Patrick's Day is a holiday that I used to celebrate in a big way with my ex-wife because we met on St. Pat's Day 14 years ago. I know it's the past but it's hard to let go and forget. In case you are wondering, "Down in a deep, dark hole. . ." is from the chorus of "Miner's Refrain" by country singer Gillian Welch. Craig Since my last email
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Jason, Those are nice words to go by I will keep them in mind myself. Sorry to hear that you are going through a bad time as well I guess we all are in this situation weather you are the one depressed or someone you care about is. It is all I can do some days to keep my sanity but I do the best I can. Well you take care and hope to hear back from you soon Take care
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Hi, Craig It sounds like you are really going through a bad time and I am really sorry to hear about that. It sounds like you have alot on your plate and you just need to deal with one thing at a time and take it day by day. Maybe you need to go back to the doctor and let him know what is going on and maybe he can change the dosage of your meds. Sorry I am far from a professional on this matter and I am dealing with my bf who is suffering from depression so I can only learn from that and the books I have read on depression. But what I have learned is to take it day by day and go back to talk with your doctor sorry I am probably not much of any help on this matter I am searching for alot answers myself. But if you need to chat I am hear to help in any way I can. Take care and talk to you soon
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Graig, you know what, your not alone in this. I actually feel nearly the same way. I'm 24 years old, I've lost my fiancee, I use to have all the friends a man could need, now only two or three, I'm battling to keep me college and work together. But, I still have faith, and you should too. I'm not proud of my past and deeply regret it, I've lost a lot of oppurtunities and friends. Not to mention I think of my first love everyday. But, heres the secret a wise man has told me. A MAN (Woman) HAPPY WITH HIS PRESENT, SHALL SELDOMLY THINK OF HIS PAST. These words have been so important to me, and you know what, they're true. Every man has certain expectations of themselves, meet yours Graig, and I promise you'll be happy. And always remember that secret I told you. Everything will come together for you, law school; I am truly impressed with that. You should be proud of that!
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Lately I've felt so lonely and depressed that I often view my life as a living hell of suffering that will only end with my death. The lyrics "Livin' in hell/Is there a heaven?" from the song "Live Fast, Die Young" repeat in my mind every day. I find these morbid thopughts of death deeply distrurbing but hard to get rid of. A string of bad breaks, setbacks, and failures in my life during the past few years make it hard to have hope for a better life and easy for negative thoughts to take over my mind. A few years ago I flunked out of law school, my wife had affairs, I moved out and filed for divorce, I've suffered from anxiety and depression with suicidal ideation, I took and failed the California bar exam three times, my student loan debt is over $200,000, and I've been chronically unemployed for a year and a half. I have no love life and virtually no social life---almost all of my local friends (now ex-friends) have let me down and abandoned me. Another downer is that I'll be 40-years-old in June---not a pleasant thought when you feel like your whole life is a mess. I'm afraid that some day I'll go bankrupt or become homeless. My diagnosis is Recurrent Major Depressive Disorder with Psychotic features (I have auditory hallucinations), Dysthymic Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and Personality Disorder, Not Otherwise Specified with Avoidant and Dependent Features. I see a counselor once a week and my meds are VIvactyl anitdepressant and Buspar antianxiety. But as my psychiatrist told me once, medications do not stop you from having negative thoughts. There are so few people I can share this with in an open, honest way. So can somebody out there please send me some email feedback? Thanks. Craig This message was edited by Melanie on 1-31-04 @ 7:07 PM

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