Craig,
Happy Birthday, I hope that you try to have a good one. Thanks for the reply, I haven't read the book that you mentionned but I will try to pick it up at the local library. I have never been through a divorce as an adult, however I am a child of a " Broken Home" and know only to well the pain that comes with that. The betrayal, the agony, the incredible sense of forever being alone, and of course the guilt. This event has left me deeply scarred. I have a hard time trusting people, letting them in to see my whole self, even the dark ugly spots. That is part of the trouble with my boyfriend, I have hid this from him fairly well. He knows about the problem but hasn't really seen the devastation it can, and will, cause.
Perhaps being alone is the right thing to do until you can sort some of this stuff out. I know that I have thought about doing just that. It is easier, at least for me, to deal with this stuff alone. Noone else gets to see the bottom drop out.
Take care of you,
Nova