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Etiquette and Asserting Oneself - "Finger- Lickin´" Bad


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Today someone parked their BMW SUV so close to my car in a busy medical parking lot, that I could barely open my door to get into my car.  I tried getting in from the passenger side, but I don't stretch the way I could as a child.
 
I know some employees who drove vehicles for a living would do this intentionally to their supervisors, but this was selfish, I thought.
 
Also, at a fast food place, a student asked me if I was in line, and then butt in.
 
I left for another fast food place, and a gentleman butt in since he "only wanted a coffee".  A woman asked him to get in line.  I asked him why he butt in, and he said it was "only for a coffee".  I asked him how he knew what the rest of us were ordering, and if he could mind read.  His reply was that he was "stupid". 
 
Just another day in a Paradise full of rude people
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Sunny
That sounds cruel too on top of being inconsiderate
12 years ago 0 1665 logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo logo 0
Hi Hugs:  Poor you, not much you can do about it I think.  I have a neighbour who for some reason leaves their dog out and leaves it yipping to come in.  Sometimes it yips and yaps til 3 a.m.  It's not a bark as if there is someone walking by or after a squirrel or a cat, it is to come in.  Some nights they bring him in right away after his last outside visit, other times they forget (?)  Whatever it is, I find it wakes me and it upsets me as I wonder if they'll leave it out in the cold for too long this winter.  It is not an outdoor dog.
 
Sunny
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Is it appropriate for people to honk their automobile horns when car pooling?  I'm a light sleeper, and just came off of 5 years of Cpap, and a lifetime of shift work, only to find some of our neighbours allowing this behaviour.
 
I was hoping to sleep later, and recoup that lifetime of sleep-deprivation for restorative sleep, but I suppose this is not going to happen
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Thats right we sure do have to pick our "battles" thats for sure. I am really glad you are not doing this caregiving alone.. Red..
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The batteries in cell phones only last so long and after a few years need to be charged more often. Some batteries are more expensive than the phones since they go obsolete so fast. It is almost impossible to get a plain phone anymore. They are all mini computers now with computer prices. 
Her battery might just not hold a charge any more. Still it is not your problem is it. 

Davit.
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No need to apologize Hugs.  I guess there are many different models of cell phones out there.  I'm afraid I'm a bit behind in this tech world.
 
Sunny
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Sorry to prolong this...Apparently the homemaker did ask  once about the phone.  At least I am aware of what's going on.  They're not paid much, so I imagine the person will be changed, but all reports.
 
I like the idea of asking about the recharging.  It has to be a conscious choice to charge at mom's home, because everyone is so dependent on their cellphones now, in case of emergency.
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Hi Hugs:  I would ask that caregiver what's wrong with her phone that she has to recharge it all the time, with innocence.  She'll reply something along the lines of - nothing's wrong with it, it just needs recharging - maybe then she'll ask if it bothers you.  Now the ball is in your court.  What about the situation bothers you?  It's probably because she never asked, so now you have to decide if you are going to tell her it is o.k. or not o.k.  You can practice an answer so you can be ready.  Although better to know in your mind exactly what it is you want to tell her, yes or no.  If she does talk a lot on it while taking care of your mom, I would make it quite clear that I'd prefer that she not take calls unless it is from head office.
 
My two cents...
Sunny
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Hugs

And that is the kicker. My agoraphobia revolted at handing over the reins. In the hospital I had no say because it was their place. But in my place that is a different storey. I could use help but since I work in my garden I no longer qualify unless I want to pay. Thing is the things I need help with are things that are very difficult to do. I can hoe potatoes yet not use a can opener. I can dig and wash carrots but not fold laundry, especially sheets. I can wash dishes but have trouble vacuuming or washing the floor. But then the people making the rules have no idea what it is like for me, but they have the papers they need to be able to say no, just because. Ah well I can get by without them and soon will have help of my own. 
Cost has nothing to do with whether it is right or wrong. Wrong is still wrong. There are rules of etiquette to follow even if they are not theirs. Some things just are not done. They do make you feel like they are doing you a favour though so you better accept it. Bull I say. It is my home.

Davit.

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