I believe deeply in the importance of community. I think community is fundamental to a healthy society and to healthy people. To me, it seems obvious. So this question caught my eye in a big way.
That said, the idea of growing a community online poses some real challenges, ones that Davit mentioned in an Oct. 2 post here that I agree with are problems for this sort of site and this type of support group.
When I was first learning CBT, the responses to my forum posts from Davit and others made all the difference. Reading a book or website on CBT is not the same thing as discussing your personal experiences, thoughts, ideas, with others. They are both needed in order to do the changes, in order to self-help. I value this website forum a lot.
I don't have any great ideas about how to further grow the community here although I do want to belong to the community here. I think that forum posts and all electronic communication suffers from drawbacks in that people who can express themselves accurately and efficiently with words and text are going to find this forum easier.
The common denominator to texts, tweets, posts, and emails are that they lack the facial expression, tone, volume, inflection and body language that goes with face to face communication. That is a problem here because one can post "I had that happen too." and it can be taken the wrong way because you can say that with a concerned voice or mocking voice and we have to trust that we are using a concerned voice, and we have to forgive any misused wording or phrasing that comes across as say, sarcastic when it was meant to be sincere.
further to my previous paragraph, is the fact that we are seeing people who ended up being misunderstood when they engaged on social media sites such as this and then recoiled there afterwards. once bitten twice shy. i've seen it and i've experienced it myself. a long time ago i posted to a social media site and got attacked by someone, not sure why, my post was innocuous. but it made me never want to post to any website ever again. lucky i got over it.
add in the fact that our site here is about anxiety, and i am sure there are people who could make wonderful contributions to this site who are gunshy now after a bad experience elsewhere. i've never been even close to attacked on this website but on most social media sites comments are not moderated and trolls abound.
I suspect technology will meet us half way over time and perhaps someday we will be posting voice messages where the tone and inflection from the voice is added back into how we communicate with each other.
an obvious barrier i deal with is the anonymity. i do not want everyone knowing what health issues i deal with. few of do want that all out in the open. we have to stay anonymous which limits the degree to which we can build connections and bond.
so i guess to end, my question is this. The word "community" is one of those words that is used a lot and has many different definitions (operational, lexicon, and personal definitions). Ashley, how would you define "community" in the context of your original post on this thread? I suspect we all agree we are talking about more than just a group of people. Everyone at the store at the same time one day is a group of people but that does not mean they are a community. So there are defining features to a community. What does everyone here envision as the ideal community for this site?
Hope this sparks further discussion!