hi
life has ups and downs....I have learned my car needs major work...i can feel that my body and mind are freezing up from the stress....i know that this is not a major catastrophe, but its an involuntary reaction. it helps to write.
bob
sandy
its a roller coaster ride for me. i am not on meds...have tried, but stopped some time ago.
try exercise...push yourself..take small steps.
i have taken up digital photography lately and that also pushes me to exercise as i search for photos in the hood or whereever. also it takes my mind off myself and into a creative zone.
change your routine...get out into the wilderness for a hike.
read about cognitive behaviour therapy..see if you can apply some of it. practise breathing and muscle tensing exercies.
write a journal...write poetry..or something that seems like poetry.
pray whether you know anything about God or not.
smile at people..say nice things to them.
The above are some of the things i am working on...seems to help somewhat
take care
bob
hi tanya
perhaps you shouldn't worry about crying in front of your therapist...also crying may be an emotional relieve valve.
personally i find that structured groups give me energy...i am very awkward and shy in a nonstructured social situation.
i would join the group....whats the downside?...if you don't join you will probably be getting down on yourself for not doing so.
take care
bob
sandy
i am writing to offer you my support. perhaps you should also be looking for other ways to help yourself. there may not be a pill that will instantly cure you. Writing to this site is a good sign for you. perhaps you can exercise more, write a journal, read about cognitive behaviour therapy and try some self help exercises. change your habits, your routines somewhat.
You didn't mention therapy, which i think is also a good step...if you read through the postings on this site you will come up with a lot of specific ideas for action.
I woke up this morning feeling overwhelmed and frozen. I don't know how the day will turn out, but i do feel that I have a number of tools that I can try to use to relax me and hopefully energize me. these are ideas have picked up on this site and also in researching CBT
i wish you well
bob
Maddy
Like yourself i operate a small business. i have poured a lot of emotional energy into it. i am trying to remove myself from it somewhat..in that my success as a person is not related to the success of the business. I need to take some breaks from the business to re-energize myself mentally. i have to take care of my body also by exercising. i have to watch that i don't soothe myself with alcohol too much. the most important thing in your life is your health...both mentally and physically. also you want to maintain a great relationship with your husband. These are the most important things in your life.
Perhaps we shouldn't look at ourselves as failure or successes. We might concede that we failed in one task. we could look at that and say..."I learned something here, and i will change a couple of things in the future." you can say "I did the best that i could"
If you think you screwed up somehow..forgive yourself and others that might have screwed up also.
Looking back, i feel i put way too much into my business, particularly at the expense of my health. i would have liked to have spent more time with my children as they grew up etc etc.
Perhaps if you read some self help info on cognitive behaviour therapy, that would help you....or you could get some counselling along those lines
take care...write often...its good for you.
bob
Hi
I experienced a successful weekend, with a couple of parties, got lots of stuff accomplished at work etc. I continue to be somewhat overwhelmed with life as I think I may have a few too many irons in the fire.
If I am depressed now...its only a mild depression. I have certainly been in many deep dark holes previously.
I have done three positive things to help myself
I have spent some time on this site and the internet researching depression. I write about it, write poetry, journalize etc...sort of letting it all out and relieving the tension. I have admitted to my problem. I have defined my problem.
I have looked at Cognitive Behaviour Therapy and I am thinking about my life in a different way. My health is my number one priority, both mentally and physically. Additionally i want to establish my own criteria for success and my personal image. I don't want to judge myself through the eyes of other people.
I have worked at increasing my physical activity, eating healthy, drinking lots of water and getting 7 - 8 hours of sleep.
As I said I am still anxious and somewhat befuddled at times, so I have to keep working on all of the above to at least mainstain some level of normal.
Does anyone elso on this site have the same sort of experience...going from deeper to very mild depression. Could they write about it? I am interested in ways to approach mild depression and tools that we can use to get out of it. i am not on medication.
hope to hear from some folks.
take care
bob
hi
i look forward to hearing from you some more. just type away. let it all hang out. pause and then perhaps read it over and edit a bit. writing is good for you. I have gotten lots of great feedback and wonderful insights on this site
bob
trysohard
just keep writing. you are so cool. i think its great that you are looking back and focusing on all you old feelings. deal with whatever weighs on your mind, until its no longer a problem. for me the stuff you write is so interesting. it is so different from everyone else and i mean that in a very positive way. I have exposure to foreign students and culture and so its good for me to understand them better.
you carry a heavy burden imposed by your parents. i can see its difficult to establish your own identity. I wish you well. i know you are very bright and talented. you are indeed very successful. you merely have to celebrate your successes more, rather than focusing on your failures.
take care...hang in there.
keep writing. you have a talent for expressing yourself.
bob
more...
i am a social idiot, so going to a couple of parties and feeling fairly good about that is a great success for me. i take a lot of pictures with my digital, so that sort of helps with the small talk interaction thing. people are interesting in what they look like etc., and it gives me something to do rather than just eating and drinking too much.
bob
kayelle
you will be unpregnant some day, so your husband will be attracted to you. perhaps you could focus more on looking for good things to say and do for your husband and daughter.
its a very difficult thing also to diversify your life in your condition and with a young child, but perhaps you can look beyond your family for something that interests or captivates you. i walk around with a digital camera and take pictures of everything, my neighbours included...if your bring a kid you attract lots of attention. you could work on a photo family photo album.
Also, keep a journal, write poetry, write to and read this site etc.
I have read a few things about cognitive behaviour therapy and i think that has helped me focus on whats important in my life. you know your life will change, as you bring another child into the world. Hang in there.
bob
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